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Dear all, i have read similar posts in this forum many times - about husband not being interested in the wife in any way - physical or emotional and every time i read it i felt like its my own story. but i am not able to put aside this issue till i find out why... i am 100 sure that my husband has no extra marital affair going on or that he has some physical problem or that he is having some kind of stress due to financial issues or that his sexual orientation has changed. I also take care to make sure that i dont forget that i am a wife in addition to being a mother ( i have a 2 year old and have been married almost 8 years now). We both also almost never fight or argue or have differences in opinion. Then why is it that my husband never pays attention to me. he is least interested in sex also. Its not like he has been this way always, before we were married when i met him twice or thrice i could feel he is very excited about the marriage and i could also feel that he is so very much looking forward to spending his life with me. Then what made him change? i have asked him numerous times but each time he says its nothing. I have even gone in for counselling to make sure that i am not doing anything wrong unknowingly which is hurting him, but even my counsellor said that she doesnt think its me who is making him behave that way. He refused to go for counselling. Please tell me your views so i can find out atleast some reason which is keeping him away from me, he is physically at home, but mentally never present he is also emotionally unavailable every time.
Thanks for spending your precious time in reading such a long message. Looking forward to your views on this topic.
Thanks tia replied. Dear friend,
i think you should cool down.there is nothing wrong with you or him if you both are leading a normal life with minimum arguments,no financial crisis have a baby and hence a complete family.i am married for 4 yrs and i know,men are the ones who cannot go for sex as much as wome can.i love my hubby dearly and its comforting to me physically and emotionally whenever he comes to me.but for him,though he is equally loving and caring,has lots of things going on in his mind like his work,plannings for our new home,or simply laziness that many times he just prefer to sleep!!!though i get upset and even fight with him sometimes,i know that its not that he is not interested in me,not loving me or anything like that.and its not like he is not coming to me also.its just that its not as frequent as i would like to.the thing is men being the active partner,he can do that when he is physically and mentally very fresh,and for us it is not so necessary.hope you get it.spend more time with your child,be cheerful with both your kid and hubby and you will be a happy woman.all the best!!