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i don' t from where to start.i am 28 yrs old ,have a 3 yr old baby and married for the past 6 years.i and my don' t get along at all. we are complete opposites in every sense of the term.we have been to counsellors twice but of no help.we are in good terms for one month and not on talking terms for 3 months.every time the reason for fight is different.but no matter whose fault i only have to make upand even then he won' t relent but this time i have decided not to make up.our physical relatuonship is in a total mess and evn in that i only have to take the lead it' s as if we are not married at all.divorce is not an option due to various circunstances. iam not at all happy. i wish i c ould have found a more like minded person.the only good thing about him is he takes good care of his daughter. but for a happy relationship is this enough. please help. mg replied. hi, all marriages are not perfect, besides no fights /no arguments does not mean happy marriages, after all we are all human beings with difference of opinion. So if there is a difference in opinion one should comprise turn by turn, if only one spouse is comprimising then it will lead to heart pain and bitterness. But remember one thing if you want to have a happy healthy marriage dont keep feelings pent up, open up and speak your mind even if you have to hurt your spouse at the same time, be ready to patch up immediately even if you have to sorry that way you are opening your heart and sharing your feelings openly and at the same time butter your spouse say sorry and continue having a good relation. I am married ten yrs,my hubby and myself are totally opposite eachother in character, and he is my biggest critic, in the initial years of our marriage, if one of us is upset we would stop talking to each other for 4-5 days, the anger was never shared or spoken and so never solved. But now we fight/argue/disagree but all said and done morning we again hug and patch up, this way our mind and heart both are clear. We often dont discuss things so as to avoid hurting the other and end up being hurt ourselves and then blaming the other for our hurt and sadness. Well wisher replied. Dear Madam,

I very much sympathise with the situation you are currently in and could only give you emotional/moral support.

For the success of any marriage or a
relationship to work, it requires
unconditional trust, honesty, support and faithfullness on the part of both
partners.Besides it requires a lot of
give and take, understanding each other' s likes and dislikes and buliding
confidence and appreciating each other' s role in performing one' s duties.There are absolutely no short
cut methods to make a marriage work.

Pls try respecting each other' s feelings/emotions and provide unstinted love/support for each other
to convert this relationship into
a meaningfull one.

Think positively and everything would work out well for both of you.

Wishing you all the very best and
good luck,

Your wellwisher.