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I got married 7 years back and have a 2 year old baby. Mine is an arranged marriage and before marriage i have met my husband two three times and he appeared to be a very nice person who was so excited about his life with me. But the day i got maried, it just changed and he just started ignoring me. My MIL is widowed and doesnt like if me and my husband are in the same room, she even raised hell the day we left for our honeymoon. She keeps telling my husband false stories about me ... how i torture her, how i am so rude to my own parents, how i dotn do any work in the house etc etc and he used to ask me for explanation and every time i have given him plenty of proof that she is wrong . i have even spoken to her in his presence that she is wrong and i dont mean to hurt her in anyway. But she saw a golden opportunity to break up me and my husband forever on the day my baby was born, i was in hospital and later busy with my new born... she brain washed him continuously for 1.5 months about what a horrible person i have been...how i dont feed milk to my child on purpose, how i didnt put on weight during pregnancy becoz i am so selfish that i didnt want to gain weight so i dieted during pregnancy .. that i talk back to her is she tries to advise me about the baby... all wrong... all wrong...after that episode, my husband has withdrawn even deeper into a shell.. he just ignores me all the time, he talks limited things with my parents when they visit me... he is nice enough to them, he is nice to everyone of my relatives when they visit me, he is nice to my child too... but to me... well he treats me like a stranger... he keeps himself busy with is work WHOLE DAY WHOLE WEEK. he doesnt speak even one word with me. he doesnt talk to me or look at me. i have tried everything i could imagine, talked with him asked him whats wrong. everything. my MIL doesnt stay with us now, but still he seems to be harbouring some kind of hatred against me. nothing i have done has worked so far. he just ignores me all the time. when i ask him whats wrong he says nothing is wrong, he says he is just like that only... but i have seen how different he was before marriage. how come everything changed after marriage and why is he harbouring hatred against me just based on what his mom told him? even after i have spokent with him and told him that nothing like that ever happened.. i spoke about all his moms acquisations in fornt of his mom in his presence and his mom just denied all acquisations so he knows that she is playing a game with us, becoz she did tell all those things to him and then denied having said them at all. Please advise me if someone has gone though similar experience and how you solved it. i know walking away from this marriage will be the easiest thing, but it might not be the best thing, i still want to make this marriage work, i still want us to live like all other normal couples. i want to be happy again, i want to live life and not be bored and ignored all the time. sonia replied. Hi Confused,
I know its not simple to clear the brain wash done to ur hubby but its in ur hands to try some techniques for the same & u have 2 mths in ur hand before she comes u ll have to do certain things that ll not even change ur hubby after ur mil is come back.. all the best .. i hope u can make ur hubby only urs again. sonia replied. Hey confused dont worry so much what i think is though ur mil has spoiled the relationships betw you and ur hubby as now she is not staying with u .. u have a chance to make come closer to ur hubby... u give him more attention.. as maybe ur giving more attention to ur kid.. u keep on making him realise that he he is most important person for u .. pamper him a lot.. also try to seduce him by doing romantic things.. make good food specially for him and try to make urself the way he likes u.. try these things and let me know if u need more tips i can give u