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My situation is not a very peculiar one .. m sure most of you must have come across this kinda situation.

I am a mom f 1 yr old and Working in a reputed firm. The reason why I could continue with the job was that my office is close to home .. though I am staying in a metropolitan I never had to waste my time commuting to and from office. My baby stays with my babysitter the whole day but I visit home in b/w to see my baby almost everyday as and when my work allows me with a free time. I also manage to reach home well within time and make it a point to take my li’l one for a stroll everyday in the evening no matter how tired I am.

Now the problem is that my friends and acquaintances in the building keep commenting me on me continuing my jon leaving my kid with the maid. Though they do it in quite a HR manner. They will say “You are quite strong and bold yaar .. you really have big heart to leave your small kid with the bai”. Some people say “ You must be very strong emotionally ..you leave your infant with the kid”. No one will understand my problem.. I am working because I like to work. It gives me peace . Though it was very difficult for me to take a decision of continuing with the job after having a baby. Hey also backbite about me in my absence for the same reason.


A new problem I have realized is that some of the people in the society I stay have started thinking that I am working in some Call centre as I come soon from office .. take walks with kid and quite bubbly. They must have thought that a person working in a good firm can never afford to come from office before 7:30-8pm. I manage somehow because firstly I stay close to office and secondly I never waste my time in office gossiping with my colleagues. I never take coffee breaks also.

I am fed with different reaction people give ….. I have just started mingling up witth ppl … Earlier when I never used to speak with people they said she has attitude.Whats shall I do ladies. ???? How do I stop talking about me ?
ST replied. Hey, i was also facing the same problem where i was staying previously. but what i was doing ...just ignoring them. let them speak what thay want. dont waste your valuable time ..instead giv this time to your baby and home. generally these people dont have anything to do in their life or dont want to do or cant do....so how to release their frustation.....on us....so just ignore them. neena replied. Dear St,

Kuchh to log kahengae , logo ka kaam hai kahna !!!
They are plain jealous of u. They are making fun and back biting you because you have what they donot have - good job, nice income , have maid service , taking care of baby inspite of tight schedule !!!
Ignore Ignore Ignore is all i can say.
Hats off to u ... let them think whatever.
Just be polite to them and forget them after that.
TP replied. hi dear,

I would say that you are really lucky.You have a wonderful kid, your work place near to your home and a reliable babysitter.dont waste your energy trying to explain to your society people.let them think what they want.they are just Acquitances - not your family or someone whom you have to explain your every action.so what the hell - let them continue to say that you work in call center or anywhere !!! you are extremely lucky that your workplace is at a stone throwing distnace from your home.I leave my 5 months old baby with a babysitter at my place.MY workplace is 1.5hrs away from my home.I cant change my home because thats very close to my husband' s work place .we try to do a flexi shift to cover up the tme with my baby.i fell terribly guilty at times but due to some financial obligations Ican not quit my job & otherwise also I am a qualified chartered accountant so at any point of time I would not sit at home.Also, just to add many of my colleagues and friends have already committed a mistake to take a gap/break in job for 2 months or 6 months to look after their new born baby and to come back to work when its convenient for them.But know what, even after a year they cant work because their babies are so used to being with the mothers or the mother just wont let their babies be with someone else beacuse they just dont trust anyone for their babies.So, I would say that you and me are better off.Be proud of yourself , juggling between office and baby isnt an easy work and excelling in both the fields is tougher.you just cant take your work at home or office for granted.Just dont pay any attention to what anyone says - enjoy with your kiddo and please learn to art of \" ROYAL IGNORE\" so that anyone' s any word doesnt effect you!!!

Best wishes - TP Namita replied. i would say u are a wonderful mom, wife and a person bcoz you are taking care of ur child, home n urself so well ...
proud of u n keep it up

y do u hve to thik abt wht others r saying let them think tht u r working in call center or working as a maid in some other house .. why is it bothering u ... they hve lots of time so this people invest their time in gossiping n thy feel gr8 deal abt it .. so b away from gossipers
indian replied. do not bother of the rest of the people aroundd you as long as your family like you to work and the baby is taken care of well. i guess just forget about the rest. they will talk about you untill they get another topic to talk about.... that is life. Sister replied. These people r just plain jealous of u.
Thats it.Just dont bother at all.
U r doing something they have always wanted to do but cant so they r taking it out on u.
My suggestion would be just stop mingling with such cheap mentality people.U have a job,a kid and a husband and u should put all ur time in these rather than talk to such people.