please excuse if a bit incoherent i havenot slept for 6hrs stretch since last 10 months. cos that's how old is my little daughter. we hv been co-sleeping , i nursed her to sleep but she is v restless at night and keeps waking up after every hour or 2. comes headbanging to me... i let her settle herself for some time but when she cant i agn nurse her to sleep. i hv to join back work in 3 weeks time, so i started sleep traning her in her cot in her room. for last 2 day i let her cry out to sleep... which is just so heartwrenching that when she wakes up at night again after 3/4 hours i bring her back into my room and nurse her to sleep. the prblm is not only sleep, she has a very low and now diminishing appetite too so i guess if i can get her sleep right that wud follow. please someone tell me that they hv tried the sleep cry out plan and it has workd. or some plan/program that has worked. Katrina replied. Megha I am going through the same thing as I am typing this it has taken 2hrs for Christian to go to sleep without breast milk for comfort, I have not been able to try controlled sleeping until now Christian Trent is now 10mths today, the reason for the delay was because He suffers from consitpation and indigestion and after many speclialist I know see an accupunterist chiropractor and also on homopathic treatment it has taken 14 days to get every thing working again, he has only been able to have vegetables and then we will slowly introduce other foods and hoping it will still be a success. Before the treatment Chistian Trent was waking every 1/2 hour I would start his bed routine after a bath,massage, story time,then feed {Breast}, then burp yes then we waited for the clock to move 1/2 hour and we are lucky to get that, this goes on all night so to get some sleep for mum and bub Christian stays in bed with me from about 4pmtill 7.00 and will have 1/2 hor nap mrn and afternoon if I am lucky yes before the treatment went of all foods refused to put any thing other than milk to his mouth and then was only using me as a comfort. I guess what I am saying is it is o.k to try the sleep pattern as long as you first rule out any medical problems first and don't expect your doctor will oder full bloods you have to ask for all including to see the specialist and push for all if not responding to your wishes get another opinion any way I would like to know how all is going and I can tell you if Christian has improved since tonight he is still asleep it has been 1hr cross my fingers legs everything. I will be wishing you all the best.
Kind Thoughts
Katrina megha replied. thnx for responding agn Jay. I know what u r saying. I had read some books like Gina Ford's Confident n Calm child etc. but I will try to get the ones u've suggested from our local library too. And of course it's my husband who will hv to read them along with me to be convinced. Only last week he showed me the website info from Dr Sear's where the benefits of co sleeping were highlighted etc. Well he is a first time Dad and it is a daughter in question....and then he has been called the internet dad by our freinds cos he \";knows\"; well so much info there is on the web u've got to use ur own judgement... so I will be back with the sleep routine... but after some time. jay replied. I guess success with a baby is just having a healthy and happy baby.

I had known a woman who did what your husband is doing, sleeping with baby for security, and her child is now six and can not fall asleep without the parent and big separation anxiety issues.

You have to get your husband to stop this becasue it does not teach baby how to sooth him self, how to be independent. Also you can make baby feel secure during the day by spending all the time with her and baby will still feel secure at night.

Did you have a chance to get and read those books I recomended?? megha replied. Thanks Jay and Poonam for your advice and inputs. well I guess I left it too late. i had avery diffiicult delivery and had to undergo corrcetive operation etc so not all went as ideal. also my husband is very strongly opinionated about sleep training. he does not want her to sleep alone cos he thinks it makes the child feel left out and insecure. in fact he has volunteered to sleep with her!!! so that i can be saved some nights. he has agreed to sleep train her his way... which is sleep with her to make her feel safe. i do not agrtee with this. but i guess we will try another time my way. cos i am also joining back work i do not want to inflict too many sepeartion anxieties on her right now.

it is good to know though that u have susscessfully achieved what i still aspire. Poonam replied. I agree with Jay. My baby is 15 months and from very first day, I scheduled his every work. Regarding sleep, he sleeps around 10.30 pm upto 7 am. From very first day, I tried music for his sleep and he adapted. Now he takes one or two musical toys in his bed and with playing music, he sleeps himself in his own bed. Its upto you as early as possible you can make her routine.
All the best.
Poonam jay replied. In my opinion cosleep is not good as the child is use to sleeping with you after time and will not be able to settle on own. You are always there to sooth your baby and baby can not learn to do it own. You are now going to teach your baby how to sooth herself. This could be hard and sleepless.
My wife and I let our baby sleep in same room only for first three months and then graduate to baby own room at four months.
Our baby is four and half months and sleeps through night. She is down at 9pm and up again at 5am.
This is what we do. We do not stimulate baby in evening, we let her settle from the day. After dinner my wife gives baby massage, talks to baby and plays classical music. After massage we give baby a warm bath and let her play for a while. Usually by 8:30pm she is done and we nurse her. Give her combination of brest milk and formula. Our baby then goes to bed. Everything is done in positive environment with love.
We do no jump at first noise she makes, only when she out right cries, rare. Your baby is now 10 month and needs to know and understand what a bed-time routine is.
It is up to you to put baby on schedule and stick to it. Your baby looks up to you for guidance. If you can not stick to schedule then baby will not stick to schedule. Your baby also has to learn to sooth herself.
Maybe your baby is not getting enough stimuli during the day and is full of energy at night. Or maybe baby does not feel securs and need extra attention during the day.
Here are some good book reference and I suggest you buy and read, they have helped us out quite a bit.

1.The Baby and Child Question and Answer book by Carol Cooper, MD

2.The New Baby Basics A-Z Baby and Child Care for The Modern Parent book by Michel Cohen MD

3.Baby Massage The Calming Power of Touch book by Dr Alan Heath and Nicki Bainbridge

4.Infant Stimuli book by Dr J.Mansoor MD