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hi, how r u and ur baby? wht abt ur IL' s n Husband? Have they changed after the birth of ur baby? Chandra replied. obviously i' ve been busy with the baby..but i have been meaning to give you guys an update! i knew some of you would be wondering...whatever happened to that girl!:)

well as I had said before, im back with my husband and inlaws. things are much better then before, but kind of tense. When i first got back, hubby was realllly nice to me...it was kind of a shock..i didnt think he would be so overly nice. (seemed almost fake to me)
inlaws were decent with me...i was always nice to them, never talked back to them no matter what my FIL or MIL said to me..i knew better then to raise my voice withthem....i think they even wanted me to say something to them, but i knew i couldnt. Now they have nothing to say to me because i' ve given them the utmost respect.
well as i told you before im in medical school. so im once again studying. That was a battle on its own. My husband gave me a few suggestions for other career opportunities, but i told him i was very adamant on finishing and becoming a doctor.
then came the issue, who was to take care of the baby while iwas studying...and eventually i would have to leave. My MIL and FIL had first said, they would have no problem doing so...then of course, these weirdos discuss everything to the teeth, and came up with the fact that it would be hard to take care of him. OK, no problem, i suggested getting a nanny if it was possible. And if not, then my parents could take care of the baby...they are more then willing. So, hubby wants the baby to stay with his parents, and i told him....great, thats how i want it, but if they cant take care of him, then something has to be done about that.

Things are still tense like i said...we all sat down to talk about my career..etc....and then of course..MIL brings up the past, and how i made a ' wrong decision' to stay at my parents place and have the baby....i stopped her and told her and everyone else....if you want to go back to the past and talk about all that, go ahead, but its gonna cause nothing but problems...because i have a lot of resentment as you all do too....so its better to leave it alone.
its funny....everyone thinks MIL is so quiet and all that, but in fact....she' s the opposite! get her to start, and she just doesnt stop.
they love the baby...my hubby is a great father...but can you believe....my FIL even said, when we were thinking about who was gonna take care of him, ' we never told you to have the baby..that was ur choice'
i wanted to scream at him!! he' s so cold and unbearable sometimes....i swear he has no heart. but then he plays with the baby all the time....i dont get these people...they' re psychos!!

all in all, things are ok. im finding it almost impossible to trust my husband....i know he would still go back and tell him parents everything, so that kind of puts a limit on our relationship. I don' t share things with him like i normally would..but im ok with that...after what happened in the past.i' d say its better that way! i' ve become more independent....more sure of myself. And i' ve finally stopped caring what these people think of me, cuz they' re NEVER gonna be happy!!