I am Rukmini, a 23 year old girl and married about 4 months ago and I now live in Mysore. I am from an orthodox family. So I have never cut my hair and it is about mid back long. My request to my parents to allow to cut it to a bob when I was studying B.Sc. was never allowed. They told me that I could do it after getting married if my husband agreed.
I have opted to stay home and not get employed as desired by my in-laws. My husband is a loving man and I like him a lot. I told him of my desire to wear a bob-cut, something above my collar-bone. He said that I should have either full length hair like now or if I want to have short hair it better be a short boy cut. Anyway, his parents have to agree in the first place.
My fil said that my mil' s word would be the last in these matters. My mil said that she would not object for me to have a boy cut or bob cut or whatever if I first shave off my head fully once in Nanjangud. My husband fully supports my mil' s view. I do not like to shave my head but very keen to have short hair. Has any other married girls of my age faced such a situation? What shall I do?
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I am Rukmini, a 23 year old girl and married about 4 months ago and I now live in Mysore. I am from an orthodox family. So I have never cut my hair and it is about mid back long. My request to my parents to allow to cut it to a bob when I was studying B.Sc. was never allowed. They told me that I could do it after getting married if my husband agreed.
I have opted to stay home and not get employed as desired by my in-laws. My husband is a loving man and I like him a lot. I told him of my desire to wear a bob-cut, something above my collar-bone. He said that I should have either full length hair like now or if I want to have short hair it better be a short boy cut. Anyway, his parents have to agree in the first place.
My fil said that my mil' s word would be the last in these matters. My mil said that she would not object for me to have a boy cut or bob cut or whatever if I first shave off my head fully once in Nanjangud. My husband fully supports my mil' s view. I do not like to shave my head but very keen to have short hair. Has any other married girls of my age faced such a situation? What shall I do?
bharti replied. hello rukmini,
finally you have done mottai then how was your feeling can you share about that it is so good to see that your family members supports you a lot, its good for you to fulfill your wish.
naresh replied. hello rukmini,
you go for short hair cut and see look difference in you, so its good for you, and for this take your own decision, i think it will good experience for you, and have great fun.
mahesh replied. hello rukmini,
its your life and your wish, so its good thing, you should shave your head, and you will get new experience, you go for short hair cut which is convenient to maintain, feel the difference.
tarun replied. hello rukmini,
you should shave your head that will give you new experience and in summer season shaving head is fell cool finally, you get one unmemorable thing in you are life with smooth.
omkar replied. hello rukmini,
ohh it is nice to the your story, and looks like you are too happy with your hair style, and all the best for your first boy cut, it is cool and your family also supporting you that is cherry on top.
varsha replied. hello rukmini,
as told you , you must take your decision and do short hair, and fulfill your wish, and then convenience your family, if your family members support you then its easy to take decision.
mahesh replied. hello rukmini,
finally you have done mottai how was your feeling can you share about that and it is so good to see that your family members supports you a lot also, i wish it would be better.
latka replied. hello rukmini,
they use trick against you that they dont want to allow you for hair cut, thats why they use this sentense for you, because they not oppose you for hair cut.
rucha replied. hello rukmini
cant you understand your father in law and mother in law tricks towards your short hair, so its your wish so go ahead and once fulfill your wish, its good for you and then only you will get satisfaction.
revti replied. hello rukmini
you are right at your place, if your parents allow you before this then it will be easy for you to maintain all this, but now its not possible for you, how can you now manage.
Sheshu replied. Hi rukimini,
Finally you have done mottai then how was your feeling can you share about that and it is so good to see that your family members supports you a lot also.I wish it would be better if you share about that.
Rukmini replied. As told last month, we all went to nearby Nanjangud on 18th morning. I was eagerly anticipating the head shave so I was happy about it. I along with my parents and in-laws went to the tonsuring place. The barber wetted my hair thoroughly and started shaving off my long hair. My mother and mother-in-law were smiling as they saw my long hair fall off and my bare head started emerging. In just 6 minutes my head was rendered fully bald. I felt it was a joyous experience. I looked at the mirror and I laughed at my own image. It was very good to look at. My mother commented with a broad smile that I really looked good with a bald head.
After bath and darshan we returned to Mysore. In the past one week, a dark tuft has grown and it looks beautiful in its own way. I move around with bare bald head and enjoy it that way. Now I may get this done once in two or three years.
Now I am looking forward to July when I will have my first boy cut.
krishna replied. hai rukmini first up all congratulations for u r dare decision to do headshave for u r family members.u get one new experience to shave u r head in young age and in summer shaving head is fell cool finally u get one unmemorable thing in u r life with smooth shave head take care and enjoy u r new married life with new shave head
sarathy replied. I read ur message.
FIne.
U go for short hair cut which is convenient to maintain. FIrst u offer ur hair to God then u have ur regular haircut at barbershop u feel the difference.
Neethu replied. Hi,
This is my experience, you can take your own decision.
Myself Neethu, 25, married.Myself undergone headshave 10 months before. I feel it was a nice experience.I was having issues with hair fall and felt that my hair was not strength enough.
I have done my headahave in Palani and after 3 months, hair had grown somewhat.
It was a nice experience when the barbwr touched my head with the razor and ran it over my head.He had completed once again giving me a smooth gundu.Everybody praised me for new look and nobody teased me as this is a religious act..
After my HS, hair grown better than earlier amd is very thick now.
Now, I visit saloon once in two months and keeping my hair short boycut.
Longhair replied. hi dear, i am 26 male, i have been through your
post,being a female going for short hair is not fine. You are a female and blessed to keep very very long hairs. I am a male, but still belive in keeping long hairs. My hairs are upto my waist and i take proper care of it. instead I have problem from lice and nits also but that does not mean i should go for
haircut or shave. I insted enjoy oiling my hairs heavily
and going for a very long licecombing session. I
daily oil my long hairs twice, early morning after
bath and late afternoon or evening, and sometimes also at night before going to bed. after oiling in the morning and late afternoon i go for an 1 1/2 hour of lice combing
session everyday using fine tooth nitcomb. In the morning i do it my self or sometime my aunt do it. But in the evening i have a group of 4 to 5 ladies joining me for oiling
and licecombing in our chawl. It is almost two hours of chatting and all of them help each other in oiling and
licecombing. I wash my hairs twice a week with
herbal shampoo. I also wear lots of Jasmine or
mogra gajras every sunday, and some time tie a
silver thread veni on my hairs.
please, do not shave your hairs, enjoy heavy oiling and combing. Decorate ur hair with flowers, jasmine or mogra gajras, or with veni, Long hairs are wonderful to keep do not cut or shave it.
2017-03-06
#1
Name: bharti Subject: RE:Short hair
hello rukmini,
finally you have done mottai then how was your feeling can you share about that it is so good to see that your family members supports you a lot, its good for you to fulfill your wish.
2017-03-06
#2
Name: naresh Subject: RE:Short hair
hello rukmini,
you go for short hair cut and see look difference in you, so its good for you, and for this take your own decision, i think it will good experience for you, and have great fun.
2017-03-06
#3
Name: mahesh Subject: RE:Short hair
hello rukmini,
its your life and your wish, so its good thing, you should shave your head, and you will get new experience, you go for short hair cut which is convenient to maintain, feel the difference.
2017-03-06
#4
Name: tarun Subject: RE:Short hair
hello rukmini,
you should shave your head that will give you new experience and in summer season shaving head is fell cool finally, you get one unmemorable thing in you are life with smooth.
2017-03-06
#5
Name: omkar Subject: RE:Short hair
hello rukmini,
ohh it is nice to the your story, and looks like you are too happy with your hair style, and all the best for your first boy cut, it is cool and your family also supporting you that is cherry on top.
2017-03-06
#6
Name: varsha Subject: RE:Short hair
hello rukmini,
as told you , you must take your decision and do short hair, and fulfill your wish, and then convenience your family, if your family members support you then its easy to take decision.
2017-03-06
#7
Name: mahesh Subject: RE:Short hair
hello rukmini,
finally you have done mottai how was your feeling can you share about that and it is so good to see that your family members supports you a lot also, i wish it would be better.
2017-03-06
#8
Name: latka Subject: RE:Short hair
hello rukmini,
they use trick against you that they dont want to allow you for hair cut, thats why they use this sentense for you, because they not oppose you for hair cut.
2017-03-06
#9
Name: rucha Subject: RE:Short hair
hello rukmini
cant you understand your father in law and mother in law tricks towards your short hair, so its your wish so go ahead and once fulfill your wish, its good for you and then only you will get satisfaction.
2017-03-06
#10
Name: revti Subject: RE:Short hair
hello rukmini
you are right at your place, if your parents allow you before this then it will be easy for you to maintain all this, but now its not possible for you, how can you now manage.
2016-05-04
#11
Name: Sheshu Subject: RE:Short hair
Hi rukimini,
Finally you have done mottai then how was your feeling can you share about that and it is so good to see that your family members supports you a lot also.I wish it would be better if you share about that.
2014-04-25
#12
Name: Rukmini Subject: My is bald
As told last month, we all went to nearby Nanjangud on 18th morning. I was eagerly anticipating the head shave so I was happy about it. I along with my parents and in-laws went to the tonsuring place. The barber wetted my hair thoroughly and started shaving off my long hair. My mother and mother-in-law were smiling as they saw my long hair fall off and my bare head started emerging. In just 6 minutes my head was rendered fully bald. I felt it was a joyous experience. I looked at the mirror and I laughed at my own image. It was very good to look at. My mother commented with a broad smile that I really looked good with a bald head.
After bath and darshan we returned to Mysore. In the past one week, a dark tuft has grown and it looks beautiful in its own way. I move around with bare bald head and enjoy it that way. Now I may get this done once in two or three years.
Now I am looking forward to July when I will have my first boy cut.
2016-02-01
#13
Name: sia Subject: hi
ohh it is nyc to hear the your story and looks like you are too happy with your hair style.and all the best for ur first boy cut. its cool and ur family also supporting you that is cherry on top.
2014-04-27
#14
Name: krishna Subject: hs
hai rukmini first up all CONGRATULATIONS for u did u r headshave if it possible can u share u r headshave photos and video plz.....
2014-04-27
#15
Name: k.girish Subject: SHORT HAIR - TONSURE
Hi Rukmini,
CONGRATULATIONS, for following your own wish of getting tonsured completely as scheduled.
Its a nice to have clean shave, especially in this hot summer. No doubt, it was vow and desire of your m-i-l and fully supported by your hubby.
We both, myself and wife too support you for your bold action. Enjoy your tonsure, a dark black tuff on your head would be very spongy and would be looking lovely. I further congratulate you, since, you are moving around in the city with bare head, but, do take care of your head from hot sun shine, which may hamper your health. so please wear cap while travelling, else, move around bare head.
My best wishes to you for your bob/boy cut in july. But, I do not think, you would have that much hair to have boy cut or any other cut, you will have to wait till Diwali this year, to have another cut.
I congratulate your hubby and in-laws for supporting you along with your father, mother in your acts.
BEST LUCK AGAIN and best wishes. Do post your next experience too.
k.girish & sujata
2014-04-04
#16
Name: krishna Subject: hs
hai rukmini first up all congratulations for u r dare decision to do headshave for u r family members.u get one new experience to shave u r head in young age and in summer shaving head is fell cool finally u get one unmemorable thing in u r life with smooth shave head take care and enjoy u r new married life with new shave head
2014-03-30
#17
Name: sarathy Subject: short hair
I read ur message.
FIne.
U go for short hair cut which is convenient to maintain. FIrst u offer ur hair to God then u have ur regular haircut at barbershop u feel the difference.
2014-03-28
#18
Name: Neethu Subject: Agree with MIL
Hi,
This is my experience, you can take your own decision.
Myself Neethu, 25, married.Myself undergone headshave 10 months before. I feel it was a nice experience.I was having issues with hair fall and felt that my hair was not strength enough.
I have done my headahave in Palani and after 3 months, hair had grown somewhat.
It was a nice experience when the barbwr touched my head with the razor and ran it over my head.He had completed once again giving me a smooth gundu.Everybody praised me for new look and nobody teased me as this is a religious act..
After my HS, hair grown better than earlier amd is very thick now.
Now, I visit saloon once in two months and keeping my hair short boycut.
2014-04-02
#19
Name: Neethu Subject: Suggessions on boycut
Hi Rukmini,
Suggesting to have a boycut on August.Scissors or clippers that depends up to you.By the time of august ,your hair will be grown to some extent. You can go in Unisex saloons so the saloon guys are expert in diferent types of haircut and can suggest the haircut you want.But it will be costly and if you want cost effective, you can choose barber shop.But in baebershops, there are always men for cutting hair and you should have some courage to hold their eyes on you..
You can choose boycut with 4 inch hair on top and fronts and one inch on back and sidesIf you wish, you can reduce the length on your sides with clipper.You can shave the sidelines and back above your nape with razor.
You will be having a good feel..all the best
2014-03-29
#20
Name: Rukmini Subject: Thanks
Thank you Neethu for sharing your expertence. It will go a long way in making up my mind.
In the last week, a close college friend of mine and my mom - both supported my mother in law´ s view that I should first shave off my hair fully and then I could sport whatever style I want. In fact, my college friend also underwent a Tirupati gundu two months after her marriage as part of a vow her parents had made for her marriage. It had been happily accepted by her in-laws including her husband. She said, like Neethu, that it was one of the nicest experiences she had. She will be growing it long and shaving it off once in four or five years.
My mom said that as per our family traditions she and dad had denied me permission to cut hair. But now that I belong to another family as daughter-in-law, it is my duty to follow as my m-i-l says.
My husband is not relenting on his prescription - long hair or short boycut.
So I have decided to toe my m-i-l´ s wishes - a tonsure at Nanjangud on 18th April (a day after elections in K´ tka). I do not want to go to polling booth a baldy and risk being not recognised against my photo ID card.
May be, like Neethu, I will have my first boy cut in July or August.
By the way, Neethu, how short do you get your boy cut? And is it with scissors or clippers? My husband says that he will get me clipper cut. I do not know what it means.
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