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I have been married for 2 years now & am now expecting.. everything is fine at my house. my husband is the only child & i stay with my inlaws. They are the best inlaws a person could have .. even my relationship with my hubby is very good.. in short i have a very happy life with almost no complaints..

My inlaws are not very old 48 & 58 years resp.. the main problem i am facing is that, they neglect their health totally. after marriage, i was shocked to see their ignorance about having good food & healthy lifestyle. They lived under the impression that, more the oil consumed, better it is for health. they dont eat more than 4-5 varieties of veg (we are vegetarians) these include peas & potatoes.. pav bhaji is considered as health food (still) & fruits were consumed once a month or so..i have gone a long way in changing them.. they have really cooperated.. but it is difficult to change a 25 years plus mind set so soon..
my latest concern is now their health. they never go to a doctor.. my FIL survives totally on self medication. after great persuation i got them to take various tests (medical check up) it was found that both of them had high cholestrol levels. forget seeing a doc, they make sure to have 3-4 Tsps of Ghee everyday with their food.. My FIL loves roasted peanuts & consumes the same in any form everyday.. though they have changed to a healthier lifestyle (compared to before), their personal care is very bad.. they can actually have farsaan for dinner.. & encourage the same for my husband.. my FIL has knee swelling & pain for 10 days now, but still has NO INTENTION to see a doc. i love them dearly & am very worried. cant help thinking negative. they just ask me not to worry. \";dont bother to get me treated if i have a heart attack.. i want to live life to the fullest..let things get over once for all instead of living a restricted life..\"; They dont understand that by neglecting health death will not come soon, it only increases the chances of suffering..they are not even so old to speak that way.. i am more worried that they should not go through any suffering in old age (i dont consider them old now) they live a sedantary lifestyle & find it difficult to walk after a while. they make no effort to improve their physical condition. my Hubby is indifferent to this. All 4 of us are very close to each other, but i dont know how to handle this. Have tried speaking to them, but they just laugh it off.. i hope their grandchild bring in some reason for them to live longer.. my MIL at 46 used to complain about old age, my father is 63 & till date i have never heard him admit he is old.. he is so brisk that sometimes i get tired walking with him..difficult for me to have such contrasting set of parents..
T replied. Try to influence by other means also
a) Health Magazines
b) Yoga classes
c) Health programmes on TV .
d) Ask your husband for help also .
e) Take them for walks with baby later morning and evening .
f) Invest in some fitness equipment at home like stationary cycle .

The change will come but slowly . Remember they cant change much . Keep this in mind . So just concentrate on crtical issues.