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Good Points

Loving
Caring
Understanding
Patient
With nice temperament mostly
Well-Educated
Working with a very good company at a reasonably good position
Supports me in my career growth in everyway
Helps me in all household chores

Bad Points

Obsessed about eating
No other hobby except eating - want me to cook a lot
Not great looking - slightly overweight too
Extremely infrequent sex - once in a month or even once in 3-4 months

Anyone please help me out. We live in US. I have tried everything to make him interested in sex but without any luck. I am not sure how long will I be able to live like this. Please suggest what should I do.
Vaijay replied. Look Priyanka,

You have got such a lovely husband and you should never bring the idea of leaving him at any cost. Men like to eat more than what is reqd as they want to get back the energy they loose by doing hard work during the day. As a husband it is natural for him to expect food from you his wife. When next time he wants food, give him food with high energy value so that by eating them he can be more strong to fulfill you physical desiresat night.
You say you husband is loving and caring and this is the key to make him drive towards sex by discussing what you feel when he has less frequent sex with you. You should make him feel you by discussions when he is in a good mood and not shout at him. If you try to convince a person who does not seem to understand when he is in a good mood, then you have won 3/4th of the battle. Let me know what you husband does next.

Vaijay
vaichatt@yahoo.co.in
Ashu replied. Hi Neeta
I think U R in a confused state of mind which is quite natural.
If he luvs 2 eat , treat him with aphrodisiac diets. U get a lot of dishes cooked with such ingredients.
I think if U mount on him forcefully , he'll surely respond, encourage him 2 exercise, if he understands U as U had said, he'll surely understand Ur desire just try some tacts to arouse him when he's around not necessarily only during the night.
I think it will surely work.
Take care don't be disheartened.
Being a Man I can say We men R not Very crude creatures, so have faith.
Ashu just do it ! replied. I feel most often low sex drive is a result of some physical ailment like low/high blood pressure, diabetes, hormone imbalance etc... I think you should take your husband to a doctor for a physical. I'm sure the negatives can be corrected or atleast brought down to an acceptable level...
All the best!
neeta replied. Decide what you value more-his positives or negatives.