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Married of 9 years but have no independence my hubby is very much dominent as i have lot of restrictions to go outside independently. I am working in a good co. from last 4 years reason fincially we not very good having 2 kids.9 saal ke baad bhi i am giving missed call even when reach office or at home. If i reach late by my regular routine then he inquire so maany questions that where was I and with whome????????? I mean he has a very bad mind. I am very much simple and religious afterthat he doubts on me. my life is totally hell now sometime i think to take divorce or suicide. but my loving kids?????????? this morning my all staff went to Vrindawan from office trip for some pooja i was also in the list but my hsband not allowed me becuase its not a family trip but thay had told me take your son with u he is 8 years old but mere pati ko wishwas nahi hei he was saying sab gents gande hote hei. Mei akle hoon aaj office mei so tensed even i had cried so may times but???????????????? Jyoti replied. Dear Hi,

Thanks for everything but its very much difficult to live with him but i can' t lokkafter my kids individually so i have to compramise with my life. hi replied. hey dear
never ever think about suicide. ok. IT IS NOT A SOLUTION FOR ANYTHING. GOD gave you two beautiful kids TRUSTING you. because your husband is not a good person your kids totally depends on you. they trust you dear. always be there for them. they came to this world trusting you . ok. give them all the love and see that reciprocates.
if you really need to escape from problems the best and only thing is to be away from such nasty persons. LAST SOLUTION. other than that no other solution is there ok. never ever think about suicide. YOU CANNOT ESCAPE FROM A PROBLEM THAT WAY. ok. our life is a training dear. we have to go through all these. then only we can complete our journey. the thing is we have to find ways to make things easier and smart ways to overcome problems so we will finish this journey with proud and joy. ok. our life is precious. it is not something which we could end for a fool. ok. focus on your kids. do the very best for them and you. LIVE YOUR LIFE.
GOD will help you dear. everything will be fine. you can get through it. be happy . be positive. find the powerful woman within you. GOD is always with you. GOD BLESS YOU DEAR. hi replied. hey jyoti

i can understand you dear. yes your husband is not a healthy minded person. how is your kids? are they influenced by his behaviour? you really have to keep a distance with this type of husband. how to that is the puzzling thing here. for that you have to find a way. keeping a healthy distance and maintaining one' s seld respect is very important in marriage dear. i know it will be very difficult in your case. since you want to keep peace and he wants to dominate and control everything. slowly slowly yuo have to show him you are not that type of person whom he thinks. you know how to take care of yourself . for that you have to show it to him when you are together and in a loving way. if he gets angry also you just do what you think right. and dear in some cases we have to adjust a lot. if it is worthy means if it gives kids better future and good family atmosphere and make you happy at least. if it is not like that,think the overall effect. everybody have the right to enjoy the life.
you don' t have to put up with every nasty demands. you know later you will regret. you decide what is the limit . ok. never ever go beyond that.