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Hi I am Paayal.A 24 year old woman married for over 1 and a 1/2 year now.I have good enough body structure so does my husband & we both satisfy each other's physical needs very conincingly.But there is only 1 problem that has been bothering us both & leading to arguements between us.The topic of arguement may sound very strange but it is true.I have got a strange belly button.My belly button is a semioutie one(ie outie on the top & innie at the top).It is vertically elonageted in shape & that is waht makes it more ugly.I accept to the fact that it is ugly but never gave much of a thought to it as I never thought it would mean anything to a females body sructure.But then for my husband it seems like the world.He often taunts me on that very often tries to restructure it by pulling it back & forth hard with his fingers thinking he can rectify it that way.Now this not only becomes painful but also makes me feel embarassing.He says that it makes him feel bad when he accesses my belly area while he has sex with me.Recently he even spoke to a friend of his who is a plastic surgeon who sugested that a minor operation could rectify it.When this problem was discussed with me I strongly disagreed to it as I was not ready for an operation for such a minor reason.This again led to a fight.I as a female always looked on to have body shots taken of mine & once was also completely ready for it & my husband simply denied at the last moment saying that he would never suck from such an ugly belly button.I felt this very hurting.The next day when I said this to my friend she said that my husband was acting crazy & that there was nothing wrong with it.I also felt very envious of her when she said how frequently she & her husband had bodyshots done.I love it the most when my husband kisses on or around my belly button but have to literally beg to him to do it once for me.He also disallows me from wearing a sree in the house for this reason.It is only very rarely that he has sex in my tummy region.Please tell me what I should do to engage him in my belly region..Everytime my husband takes up this topic we end up in a fight with him in the end insisting for an opertion & then as usual he starts his repairing action as I told before.I have lost all my mental satisfaction & the self confidence I had in me because of this.I would be grateful to U if U could please suggest me that would be apart from an operation. DT replied. Well, it's your body and your decision!! If I were you, I wouldn't do it, no matter how ugly it is and what my husband thinks of it....I think your husband is very insensitive towards your feelings and he is making you feel guilty. DT replied. Sorry to be blunt but are you serious? Even here in US, where people undergo extreme kinds of plastic surgery--makeover all the time. In some cases you can't figure one's nationality or sex(Michael Jackson, for instance)after undergoing these so-called \";feel good\"; physical changes. But I have never heard/read of anyone, I mean anyone who thinks of their belly button is ugly enough to have a plastic surgery??? C'on....