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I have a 10 yrs old daughter now we are planning for a second baby. I am thinking same as pooja too much of age gap and beside that I am 35 yr old
I really wish to know your suggestion towards this. Should we go for another or not.


charu replied. I have already been in your shoes. There is a seven year age difference between my two girls and I`m also in my thirties but its never too late to have a second child. Its when you have two you realise what fun you were missing! anu replied. i would say go for it.my brother is 8 yrs yonger than me,and there was no problem in raising him.
but definitely think of him/her settling in the later age,becoz my parents find difficult to settle my brother as he is still studying and my father will retire in few yrs.
so definitely set aside something for he/she,which he will need in future.
anu. anant replied. don't ever make that blunder. Ten years is too long a gap between siblings. Ask me, my sis is 11 years elder and I've been through hell bridging that gap. Have mercy on your kid, forget about the second one. You should have thought about it when your kid was three or five. If you do decide to go ahead and have one, your younger kid will find it tough to get along. Ires replied. Hi you must be happy and possibly calmer in your second pregnancy .I hope it was a planned pregnancy that would make it easier for you to deal with your pregnancy.It may have taken your son by surprise not to mention the rest of the world!.How ever if both of you want another child then it is best now than later .Forget the stares and giggles if any!
It is only now that we are so acutely consious about age differences etc and it makes sense when all aspects of our life are planned.But situations like yours do happen world over and you do not need to give an explanation to any one but you son.He has been your sole focus for long and now his mom is going to change physically and in behaviour.Explain neutrally about why you want another baby,how your pregnancy is progressing and allay his fears ?(garned from our movies) as to how sickly pregnancy and labour can be.Also do emphasise that he will be special always.As time goes and after the baby is born you must make time for him.When the baby is resting take time to tell him stories,go out for a walk etc anything which involves you and your son .I would also suggest your husband also takes time for him.
Let me also caution you that at 35 yrs of age your pregnancy may not be easy and is prone to complications slightly more than below 30yrs of age.Expect that your husband and son may think you are overinvolved with the lil one.Your son may become moody and prone to tantrums.This can be averted by explaining things to him,however do not forget he is a child too and needs to be pampered and cuddled.Also take care not to nag your son to behave like a \";big boy\";.
Take care and enjoy MUM replied. There is going to be no problem, infact I have a sister who is 11 years younger, and I loved having a baby to play with. You have an advantage that you have an elder daughter who is going to love a younger sibling. nita replied. i have a freind who has a 11 year old and is having a third one , she is also thirtyfive , no problem go ahead . there are women having kids at 40 and also when their kids are 14- 15 years so dont think twice parul replied. hi i am parul, i have 10 years old boy now i am 26 week preg, this is the best thing happend to me. my son can look after him self so i will be able pay all attention to my new born. beside my son can help me round the house its a bonus so go for it kabita and goodluck