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Hi,
I have been married for 6 years and have been blessed with a baby recently.The problem i am facing for the past 6 years is that my husband doesnt initiate intimate relationship between us.From the time we got married ,i only should start it.I feel very shy and wierd to do that.I have been struggling for the past six years like this.Even to have the baby ,i should beg him to have sex with me.He was in travelling job for the past 4 years and we used to meet only duringweekends so conceiving the baby was also tough.Finally by gods grace it happened and we have been blessed.Intially i had intrest and was intiating sex,but now i feel so exhausted with so much work at home and doesnt feel like intiating.Its been almost more then a year since we had sexual relationship.I tried to talk with him several times what his problem was.But he doesnt answer and just laughs.I tried discussing with my firend who is a doctor.she is also surprised how can he stay like that for one year without having sex.But I saw a few times him masturbating watching some sex videos.I tried to question him ,but he doesnt want to discuss it.I feel very heart broken and doesnt know whom to discuss with.I tried asking him if he has any extra marital affair and he says NO.But i am not able to understand why he is like this.whenever i intiate we have good sex.Once done he sleeps immiadetly.He does it like a duty which I hate a lot.The whole day he does is eat what i cook and sleep for hours together.I am feeling very scared why our relationship is like this .I am only 29 years old and beautiful looking.I tried asking him also if there is a problem within me.He says there is nothing like that.Please help me build our relationship.I also have some feelings as a girl.I dont like satisfying myself like how he does watching videos and masturbating.Please help me...... sG replied. Is there a solution at all? Do we women have to always work and think and bring feeling acording to husbands.I have a similar problem.When these guys are stressed they are not in mood and when we are not in mood we feel lets have it today who knows when will this day come.
Is there a way we can make them realise
how to keep someone wanting for long feels? gowda ml replied. well my friend had the same problem but then she took a bad step of finding some one else.but then she is satisfied and happy now.she has sex with the other person when she wants to.sometimes ur forced into such situations. gowda ml replied. weii Joe replied. I too have the same problem with mah wife... I wanna do it everyday abut she seldom allows me or cooperates.. its been almost 7 months since i could have it with her.. I have to help myself by masturbating while watching videos... I have tried all possible ways of talking to her and trying to convince her for having it.. But looks like she has totally lost interest in it... And i got to ear from mah friends too that its ususall that all ladies after marriage loose interest in sex.. but am kinda surprised that i could some ladies here complaining abt not having.. good to see though.. I am so desperate now that i am giving a thought of having it with someone.. I know its wrong but none can understand my situation.. AAA replied. Hi dear I am in same situation as you, My husband can go whole year without having sex,for few month we had sex then I got PG the whole nine month coz i had complication and then when baby tutned more than 1 yr we had sex so almost two yr, I have no solution for this. just venting. lm replied. Dear sam,
Sad to know about your prob. well, mine is exactly the opposite. My hubby wants to do ' it' all the time. Out intensities just do not match. For ma, once or twice a week is fine, but he wants it everyday, no matter what condition we r in. menaing even if i have not had a bath and have been smelling. he just wants to do his job and get away. his actions are rarely loving in nature. what is your say to this?