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2008-02-22
Name: Sumathi



Hi dddd, how are you? Hope you are done with your relocation. Mine is completed.
Atlast my husband' s parents went to india. According to their neighbors and relatives, they are not talking to anyone and mad at everyone for supporting me (they think that way). Mil stays in home all the time, fil comes out occasionally.
One of their relative (my sil' s huband' s uncle) went to talk with her. Fil tried to talk something but mil sent him for walking. She was crying and putting the blame on me. She said she is innocent and has never ever thought anything bad for others, yet she was blamed for whatever happened.
When uncle questioned why they summoned divorce notice to me, why they took all my money, jewellery, my baby and left me on the streets, she never replied back. She told unlce that he has no right to involve in their family matters. If he is going to question her further then she doesn' t need his relation any more.

When a person has got so much guts to stay away from every one, even their own relatives, that too to a person from her daughters family, what good can I expect for me? Its more than 2 months since my husband paid any visitation to my baby. He is holding her passport and he is not paying the child support. I am giving up all my hopes on him and about the revival of my married life.

I am tired of fighting for it. I cannot bear such injustice. Hereafter i have my baby for me. God is seeing everything. Sometimes he punishes these kind of people, sometimes he just let it go. That is His job. I cannot do anything about it.
I have decided to carry on this life with my baby alone.
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2008-02-22
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Anonymous Name: Ritika
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Dear Sumathi,

Some people are beyond repair..your in-laws seem to be such people.

I just wanted to say one thing however...haul your husband to the family court (or whatever your lawyer advises) for alimony and child support.

All said and done, at the end of the day, money will help you in leading a decent life (for you and your baby). It takes money to rent an apartment, pay for utilities, diapers, baby food, baby clothes, day care (when you are working) etc.

So don' t neglect this aspect...don' t think like a martyr..get your lawyer after him to haul his a**. He fathered your baby. He better take some responsibility financially at least.

It is not up to HIM to decide whether he wants to pay child support and alimony or not. It is not a discretionary thing. He HAS to legally.

Check with your lawyer about him holding the baby' s passport also. Don' t let him off so leniently.

As for all of them including your MIL & FIL, I also believe in what you said, that God is seeing all of this and they will get it all back with interest one day in this world or the next.

You have been so strong all this while against people who are chronic abusers.

Are you going for some counseling? If not, then it is high time you did. Ask a local women' s organization for help if you cannot afford it.

Take care and keep us posted about what is happening at your end. We do care about you and the welfare of your baby.

love,
Ritika

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2008-02-23
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Anonymous Name: Sumathi
Subject:  thank you Ritika



Thank you Ritika for your nice reply. Court can only pass the judgement. It cannot do anything to implement it. My lawyer charges for every minute i talk to him. I am really tired of all these things. You are right, i need some counselling now as i feel very weak.

Sooner or later I will try again to fight for getting back all these things, one at a time - my baby´ s passport, child support, my jewelleries and the money i earned (or atleast part of it). Thanks again.
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