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Hey,

Ur msg was very nice and inspiring.
My in-laws live with me. I have been married for 4 yrs and they are with me since day 1. now my sis-in-law (widow)with her 2 kids live with us for more than a year after immigration.
I want all of them out of my house - my husband does not agree to it - give me any advise you have. I have no kids and am studying at present.

my main point is we have no kids and still have to stay with 5 other people unwantingly also during summer my mil calls her other daughters kids for vacation which i donot like and disagree with. my husband understands all these but does not say a word HELPPPPPPPPPPP cd replied.
Dont look at such a situation totally negatively. Kids grow worldly wise in large families.their socail interactions grow more refined than isolated children same age.

ofcourse this is when you wil have children,

for now, you mentioned you study. Good, you dont have any attachements like your children at home. so just take off, say you have to complete a report,go to the library, go visit frineds if your husband cant be one.

or

Try making plans before your MIL does. announce at dinner table, next weekend, you and your hubby are going to a so-so place, your MIL can join if she likes else, she can use the house to enjoy with siblings. you can say hi to the guests and then leave..

get them used to your absence. (-:
Sister replied. Hi Vaishali,
I understand your situation completely. I am sorta in a same situation - except, I don't have SIL in the picture. But MIL calls her siblins and their kids over all the time. They are relatively young (many are way younger than me and still in middle/high schools and some are toddlers). I feel like I just never get out of hosting people. I work full time and have a young kid too. I feel like my baby also suffers from us hosting people every weekend. I can't spend my weekend free time with my child. There is always someone of the other in the house. Husband does not like this too - but can't really say anything as MIL will send him (and me too) on a guilt trip over this. BIL does not put up with this so all the burden goes on our household! This has to end. I hope it's soon. I actually can't wait to grow old and have a DIL or SIL - that person is going to so lucky and I am going to make sure I break the MIL-DIL controlling cycle.

Anyway, I don't really have any advise for you as I am myself if looking for one. But I just wanted to let you know that I share your pain. If that makes you feel any better at all.
Hang in there and feel lucky that you don't have a children to add any more complxity to this already complex situation.