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Hi all,

I am writing this problem in womens isses board. I hope that i will get helping answers from you all.

My daughter is three and half years old misbehaves badly. She is extremely sensitive, whenever she listens to some sad music she cries like anything.

She screams yells and makes bad face expression. She won' t listen even if I console her with love. If I hit her she will hit me back and makes lot of noise. I am really worried of her behavior. How to make her an obedient child. Pls. advise me.

Thanks a lot
Shreya

akki replied. hi shreya

so cute girl your baby is...:-)
that means she is following you.. and she don' t want you to scold...

let her understand your intension...
i mean if she did paint on you dress which you want to wear for outside...don' t scold , don' t beat, just try to tell her that she hurted you you wanna don' t talk with her for some time..ask her to get out and play with her dollies..
really she cann' t understand that what you said, but she can understand that you are upset for what she did...

you told me that she is of 3 and half as i know she better grown to understand your feelings and emotions.. if you show her all..

this is very important for you shreya...coz, she only you to spend and you only her to spend and express..for childern mom is everything.. they will listen you all if they got that you love her more and more..thats what they want..

may be she is doing all these to turn you towards her..

all the best
akki replied. hello Shreya...
first you confirm me one thing.. how much time you will spend with you baby and how? weather you are working or not...

i wanna tell you one thing they will learn from what they see and watch...and follow them strictly...

As a first step you spend more time with her(not only you, just keep her very busy with what she likes more and your presence must be there so that she can understand you are with her at all the time). give her more love and care, so that she can listen your words(not commands or guide lines).Just make her listening you..

after that you try her to tell the manners..and ask her to follow you..tell her that good babies are not doing like this (may be practically, if you have other childern), mama , papa are also not like that, ask her to watch you and follow you..

when you got confidence that if you even scold or hit slightly, observe that she identifying difference of your love and angry and tension when she brokes anything...continue with that.


All this takes so much time....

atlast i wanna tell you one more thing \" in these days people are making pet animals and wild animals listen to them\"
all they will follow their words..
infront of them what these kids are, even they can talk.
kids are gifted by god, you must accept them and mould them and follow them..

i hope you understand...
if you have any doubts ask me.
all the best.. sneh replied. I have a three and half year old too and I can relate to your problem ,buyt this age is not to make them obey orders but to make them undersatnd that if she does this how will it have effect .like when my daughter hits us we said you are hurting our feelings ,you are hurting us ,I am not your friend ,it doesn’t change in aday we have to continue telling this every time she does it now she doesn’t do it .At this age they are exploring every thing around them and thay develop their own individuality and understanding .be patient it will go away with time .my daughter is extremely emotional with bed time lullabies ,she cries a lot but I think it is normal .try to talk to them and give her some more freedom and indwpendece so she can do lots of things her self like dress up ,help in kitchen (not really but just like move things from here to there )appreciate her ,tell he sehe is big kid now .i hope it will help .