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Name: suhani

Hi Noor,

A very beautiful name and equally mystifying thoughts. So profound thoughts I do agree fully that kids are the ultimate love which no money or power can replace . They are the most pure soul on this universe. I love not only my kids but all the kids more than anything in this space. I already have two kids both C- sections yet I lust for more yes lust a true lust for them. The way they express joy, their soft touch, provide unconditional love is no match to any commodity in this universe.

Even my hubby is equally mad for the kids and keep on asking me to try for the one more . But as I have already undergone four operations i have my apprehensions. I know I will not be able to justify my time with them as both of us are working 12 hours a day and on very high demanding jobs. Financially we can take good care as money is not the constraint only concerns are
• Time – would I be able to give quality time to my kids as my promotion is due next month and high post more responsibility., no leave
• Health- main concern – my second c-section was a horrifying experience to me I almost succumbed to the death. So who will take care of my kids in case something goes wrong to me
• Their health
I keep on convincing my hubby that if I would have had normal deliveries I would have definitely gone for 4-5 kids but as the conditions were unfavorable we would settle for 2 kids only for the time being till I recover fully .

We would love to adopt a girl in future to complete our family and just to fulfill our dream of more kids.

In regard to C-section most of the time doctors are hesitant to take the chances and go for VBAC due to lots of technical reasons especially in few are
• Thinkness of the previous scar , normally should be more than 6mm though mine was 9.5 in second case still my doctor went for c-section
• Age gap between two kids
• Fear of burst of Gall blader
• Placenta detachment
• Uterus thickness
• Fetus discomfort , position
• Fear of unknown , ease etc.
Boss calling
Love truly
Suhani

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