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Hello Srey,I found that you can advice well on certain issues and anyone else pls who can understand my problem please reply.Iam married for 11 yrs.My life was OK for about 10 yrs with the regular ups and downs including MIL problems but nothing very serious.My husband was never close to my parents or my family it was a superficial relationship.May be becos of my rsour relationship with my MIL.But sometime ago something different happened.I told my husband about some problems that my sister was facing in the office.He suggested that we will go to some hill station and take your family along.I wasa a bit surprised but I was happy that he has come out of the son in law image.There he started smsing my sister like good morning ,have a nice day,the slowly hello beautiful tell me you like me or you love me? my sis was shocked so was I when she showed it to me.On asking him he said it was nothing and he considered her to be a sister only.But why such messages?Then he started keeping distance from my family and avoided gpoing there on some pretext.Anyway,now I find that a collegue of his sends sms' s to him he too replies but all of them are deleted.He also gets calls from her but he says we are not in touch at all.He delets all the calls and sms' s thoughy I found nothing offensive in them but why does he delete only nher calls while the rest are in his mobile.He also typed her name in short form as we call someone lovingly.Iam unable to understand his late flings Is he sereiously on look out for someone beautiful or am I making a mountain of a mole hill.Both of us are not very comfortable with each other that love and warmth is missing somewhere though he says he loves me but somewhere Iam begining to lose trust in him.What do you think of this pl help Srey replied. Wow, that' s a lot to take in. OKay, number one, joking around with your sister about likeing or loving, Now that' s freaky. Then again, here in America. I used the word \" love\" all the time. In my case... it' s used in a friendly way. \" Love ya, bye\" -\" Hi Love, how are you feeling?\" -

Anyway, the case with your sister. It' s probably nothing. You really have to pay attention to their eyes or body language when they are in the same building, you know? Trust me....You would know, if there is something going on. But, I am happy to hear that he have backed down when you confronted him. So...Case closed!

About your DH Female friends. I' ve been there, done that. Hated it...wanted to kick my Hubby' s butt, I' ve succeeded, I' ve failed, I' ve coped with it and so forth.

Just remember, that Guys will always have female friends. If your guy is honest, loyal, trustworthy...He will never do anything stupid to jeopardize his marriage, right? So why the deleted calls? well, my friend. He doesn' t want to see you upset or cause you any more suspicion. It hurts, right? I know. That is why you have to go and kick his butt! *laughing* J/K.

Actually, Once or twice I let it go. But, there are times when, he is talking too friendly, you know? Shut him up, by speaking to him in a fed-up tone. He' ll backed down. Hey, Don' t stress! relax, you' ll find a way to deal with this. Just remember that People are fighting for his attention because he is a lovable person. But you know what, they lucked out. He is yours and you are his. Cheer up. =) Sad replied. You should talk to your husband and tell him frankly how you have started to feel about the recent new things that are happening. The best way is to come out of shell and put the things out on the plate. I understand that starting this conversation might be hard to start in the first place. Keep a polite tone and be a friend (not a nagging or suspicious wife). Tell him that you respect his feelings and would try not to get upset even if he has feelings for someone, but instead as a team would try to help him come out of it. In a marriage, a couple is always a team, if the one tries to divert from the track, the other has to make effort to show the right path and bring the other one back on track. But then to politely and easily.

Be easy on him and try not to bring a gap a between you 2 as that will make the situation worse.

Good luck!