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every person on this earth has his/her likes,dislikes about ur partner.. and ppl who say that their marriage is great i feel that person is sacrificing a lot for marriage to work. and definitely its impossible to change your partner only thing u can change is ur way of thinking or approaching a matter.. i would like know ur view on this.. n i feel its most of the times females who pretend that everything is okkk and nothing is wrong.. Srey replied. Hello there,
Yes, I pretend. But, in order to pretend...you really have to look at the situation. Not everything is all about pretending, you know. Here' s 2 examples:

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This is pretty common. It' s kind of like Cooking. The wife/husband spend all day cooking, you hate the taste, but in order to make your wife/husband happy, what do we do? we pretend that it taste good, right? I' ll admit....I' ve done this numerous time.**(sorry.. Honey) but There are times when a line have to be drawn! Or else you' ll end up eating the same food over and over again.

Example #2 could be: late night calls or him/her using the internet. Why do I pretend it' s okay, when he is over here talking to some girl in the middle of the night? First off, Heck no! this is not right. *mad* Distinguishing what is right and what is wrong is the key here. If your husband/wife is talking in a affectionate way, to someone and their conversation lasted more then 30 mins. Don' t pretend that everything is okay. It' s Stupid!! or maybe she/he have a death in the family, as a friend she/he calls your husband/wife...This is understandable. Do you care? well, maybe and maybe not, right? This is when pretending comes into play. People just got to learn how to use it correctly, that' s all.

I agree. In a Relationship you will encounter numerous likes and dislikes. But remember that it not hard to learn and adapt to it. It' s all about knowing what suits you. If something is killing you inside...Gotta speak up! why Pretend? see a mistake in him/her....if it' s not a big deal, why make it a big deal, right? He/she hates this about me, I hate this about him/her too!. Pretend when you have too, but only to a certain degree. light replied. hi thr,
i kinda agree to wat advisor has posted.also,id like to add that NOTHING in this world is PERFECT.....no man,no woman,leave alone relationships!!so if one portrays their spouses aka married life as \" great\" is either a great pretence or is an individual with a positive attitude.and in a relationship positivity comes only from acceptance.once you accept each othr as they are,thrs a lot that can change and that does change....this has been my own experience.
Advisor replied. Feeling loved is the key. Once your partner accepts as who you are with your strengths and short-comings, you feel loved and thats what makes a relationship pleasurable. People who believe their relationship is ok are those ones, accepted by their spouses, or very positive people(believers as you call them), or the ones in a state of denial