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Hi Friends,

I posted my roblem about 6 months back that my husband was in EMA and as suugested by all you friends I took it step by step and really supressed my anger, desire and insult and tried to make a happy family.

I still dont know whether he is in touch or not !! But my worry is that when I wanted to leave him he didnt requested me stay and now sometimes he shows me signal of JUST GET LOST. I am independent female and never took any relation forcefully. But stayed for the most imp reason MY LOVELY DAUGHTER who is only 2.9 now.

He gets irritated on anything and will say you I was not irritaed you was and so I reacted wherein I am so normal. He wont talk to me for days together and also will sleep in other bedroom and lock it from inside. Will behave as stranger as I have asked someother guy to come and stay as PG.

Once I cry shout apologise in front of him he will become a lil normal. I do all this for daughter and also since I still love him.

but from past few weeks i m not feeling so attached to him as i used to be. When he was having EMA he dodnt even hugged me ever and now after 2.5 years of his EMA I dont find any sexual need for him.

I am still thinking whether I should stay wiyh him like this or should I leave.

pl help
me replied. Hi...I can und how u feel...my husband also is very unreasonable sometimes...and there is no pattern in my case...I don' t think he is in an affair...but he has other complexes and he internally blames me for everything. I also have a lil daughter and compromise everyday for her. I want my baby to get a good life...am waiting for things to get better...keep trying ! Srey replied. Hello,
I wasn' t here 6 months ago...I don' t know your story.

Communcation-How are the conversation between the two of you? If he speaks in a rude tone, try to talk softly to him. If he give you a normal answer but still act rude....How about just running up to him and joking with him. Give him a kiss or a hug. Yeah, it' s tough especially when is acts like a jackass, right? but sometimes showing physical affection is a lot better then words, and it is very comforting, you know?

Collateral-is there money problem in the household? if so, you gotta make a plan so that you and him have equal spending(after all bills are paid). Never hide money from one another. If it' s about gifts..make sure the value/amount given is okayed by the both of you.

Compromise-I am sure you already know about this. Heck, you probably know all about the 3 C' s, right? anyways...Mini fights can easily happen if wants or needs is not meet. So in order to make sure everyone is happy, Compromise! Ex. he wants to go out. You don' t want him too. He argues, fight, and go to bed angry. Well, stop it before anyone get upset. Try something like, \" Okay, tonight you can' t but...I' ll let you go out next week for 2 nights, instead of one\" See what I am trying to say?

Yeah, I know Marriage is Tough. If you can Save it, then Save it! But, I must admit. No love from Husband is the worst feeling, then again it' s workable. I understand that the hardest part now is to try to find the reset button. But...I am sure it can be done. Have some faith. Try the 3 c' s combined, work on it and hope/pray that he put some effort in it as well.