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i donot know how to start,but first iam married and my marriage life is ok,but iam struggling between my inlaws and my husband,he is ok and good nature .
but my brother in law he is not working he just sit at home he is enjoying life ,he is all most 33,he is not responsible at all.and coming to my husband he works day in and out ,and we have a 1.5 kid,and i always ask my husband to save money for the kid .my FLW is retired and he has money in postoffice and he get money every month and they are doing pretty ok,and here iam struggling to save money and ask my hubby their is no need to send money right now,and he always says that he is neglecting them.
and i say that when they donot need money so why do u want to send if their is need we will send right, every month he wants to send.
and he thinks that iam selfish to think that not letting him to send money to their parents.


iam confused, is it right to send money every month ?when their is no need or if sending money only proves that u love ur parents .
what is best way? please reply . M replied. I dont think you are selfish in thinking of not sending the money . Its natural to want to keep it for yourself and your kid .
The problem is that Husbands feel guity for enjoying their family life with us as if it is a crime and want to compensate or apologize for it .
But if you fight it directly it will spoil your husbands mood .

Slowly suggest to your husband that lets accumulate money instead of sending every month and send some nice gift on birthday or their anniversary as a special gift . This will keep your money with you and then you can decide how much you want to spend on them on these ocassions or when you go to visit them .
good luck