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Hi ladies.
My name is vanita and i am a silent reader for this website a long time ago but didnt post anything before.Let me tell you about me.Igot married a 8 years ago and soon after we moved to united state because of my husband job.Iwas yery happy in my merraige.A year ago i lost my husband due to brain tumor.Ihave a two daughters 6 and 2 and i am full time working mom.Nobody is here with me in united state.Ilive here on my own.The question is my parents want me to marry again and settle here in united state.I forgot to, tell i am 29 and a permanent resident of united state.Iam not thinking of it but i know its very hard to live here.Iwant you suggestions should i think about it or not.If i think i can settle again how my daughters will react .Will thet accept this.I am in such in a dilema these days.I am not able to consctrate on my work these days.Please help me about this.what should i do.
wating for your reply.
thanks. Malini replied. Dear Vanita,
I can understand what you going thru...It is difficult to be single parent, furthermore you are young. I too agree with Namita, there is no wrong if you get marry again but be very very caution selecting the person you want to marry with. You can give yourself some time may 2 or 3 years, get to know the person well before ending up with him.

I really appreciate you for being independence and being responsible towards your kids.

Pray to god, ask god to show you the right parth and bring the right person to you. Pls don' t rush into decision just for the sake of your parents wish.

Good luck Namita replied. Sorry to hear all this... bt u r a brave lady to face all alone and still carry on with life positively .... keep it up ... about re-marriage, i think what ur parents are saying is not wrong ... u r still young and how long will spend ur life alone ... there is no question of ur daughters as they are still young ... u can make ur elder daughter understnd abt. ur marriage as u want to marry to get them father and a husabnd for u... which is necessary ... BUT B CAREFUL ... b careful while looking for this option the other person shud marry u genuinely, accepting ur daughters and u .... u have to see that he is ready to marry u just bcoz u r working in US and a green card holder .... as we have good people in this world we also have bad people around, so pls. b careful .... better if this person is known to u all, may b some relative or family friend ... u think to urself, whether u want to get married .. if u r happy with the ur current life then i dont see any reason for u to get married ... u can call ur parents to stay with u for 6 months in year, this way u vl never feel alone nor ur daughters .... But getting married only for parents is wrong, parents always think about there children, they want there children to be happy ever and so are ur parents looking for .... they feel that ur life is empty somewhere without a male support ... so if u feel that u r happy with ur current situation then make them understnad .... otherwise marriage is ok ... n ofcourse ur daughters will understnd u, bt only thing is u shud get a person who will marry u wihtout any selfish motive