Hello,im 20 years old and have a pretty big family,lots of cousins,aunties.They are many cousins my age in my family,and for any other person that would be great but not for me.My cousins have always done things to hurt me,im now engaged to a wonderfull guy.But unfortunetely he is friends with my female cousins,as they used to go to the same school.I don' t want to condemn him from speaking with them,and i don' t want to talk ill of them to him.I don' t ever see them as we have all moved to university and what not.What hurts me is that i see on my fiancee' s profile on the social network site,that they contact him and write on his page.They know he and i are engaged but they don' t contact me.My fiancee knows i' m not fond of my cousins but i don' t actually talk ill about them with him.My second problem is, my other two cousins who used to make up rumours about me and spread false talks that i' m a slut,are now trying to be sweet to me.Apologising and trying to stay in touch with me.I haven' t seen them in years and i think it' s because im with a good man and doing something with my life that they want to know me.Should i forgive them and start afresh? or shall i just be civil and not be too much in contact with them.Please help me out,i don' t have a spiteful personality but people are making me this way..what should i do?
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Hello,im 20 years old and have a pretty big family,lots of cousins,aunties.They are many cousins my age in my family,and for any other person that would be great but not for me.My cousins have always done things to hurt me,im now engaged to a wonderfull guy.But unfortunetely he is friends with my female cousins,as they used to go to the same school.I don' t want to condemn him from speaking with them,and i don' t want to talk ill of them to him.I don' t ever see them as we have all moved to university and what not.What hurts me is that i see on my fiancee' s profile on the social network site,that they contact him and write on his page.They know he and i are engaged but they don' t contact me.My fiancee knows i' m not fond of my cousins but i don' t actually talk ill about them with him.My second problem is, my other two cousins who used to make up rumours about me and spread false talks that i' m a slut,are now trying to be sweet to me.Apologising and trying to stay in touch with me.I haven' t seen them in years and i think it' s because im with a good man and doing something with my life that they want to know me.Should i forgive them and start afresh? or shall i just be civil and not be too much in contact with them.Please help me out,i don' t have a spiteful personality but people are making me this way..what should i do?
Chandra replied. i know how jealous cousins can be....they see you with a good guy and even think why they cant be in ur position. if i were you, i would tell ur husband how you feel about them, he is in fact going to be YOUR husband. tell him how you feel about them, and how they contact him but not you (which is stupid). always be on ur toes, they dont have to know you dont like them, but you can always be careful, you know?
Srey replied. My opinion...
Depending on what they did to you, it' s not anything sexually related is it?(Hope not!)
Everyone deserves a chance. Most people learned to forgive and forget.(depending on the situation, off course).
The question is: Are you ready to forgive them?
Now, about your fiance profile....Are you begining to doubt him? Yes, I am sure you are hurting inside due to the fact that some of your cousins \" hurted\" you. But, seeing that they did went to school together, Maybe that is why they keep in contact. If this concerns you....Try asking your fiance about it.
As for, Starting fresh or not? Yes, you should. But, start out slowly. You don' t have to be thier best friend right away.
2007-12-05
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Name: Chandra Subject: well..
i know how jealous cousins can be....they see you with a good guy and even think why they cant be in ur position. if i were you, i would tell ur husband how you feel about them, he is in fact going to be YOUR husband. tell him how you feel about them, and how they contact him but not you (which is stupid). always be on ur toes, they dont have to know you dont like them, but you can always be careful, you know?
2007-11-20
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Name: Srey Subject: :
My opinion...
Depending on what they did to you, it' s not anything sexually related is it?(Hope not!)
Everyone deserves a chance. Most people learned to forgive and forget.(depending on the situation, off course).
The question is: Are you ready to forgive them?
Now, about your fiance profile....Are you begining to doubt him? Yes, I am sure you are hurting inside due to the fact that some of your cousins \" hurted\" you. But, seeing that they did went to school together, Maybe that is why they keep in contact. If this concerns you....Try asking your fiance about it.
As for, Starting fresh or not? Yes, you should. But, start out slowly. You don' t have to be thier best friend right away.
2007-11-21
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Name: Srey Subject: :
Your cousins were bullies.
...Sorry to hear that you were a victim.
Remember, it is perfectly okay, if you don´ t want to forgive them just yet. I don´ t blame you, considering what you´ ve been through.
Maybe it´ s time to have a chat with your fiance about what´ s bothering you...I am sure, he´ ll support you with whatever you´ re trying to tell him.
2007-11-20
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Name: Rima Subject: mmm
They hurt me emotionally,my female cousins always used to talk rubbish and scandalize my name,and make me like an outcast in our family.They would always try to belittle me infront of others,maybe because i dont have an aggressive nature they thought i was an easy target.I fully trust my fiancee,but i just would feel better if my cousins would stay out of our lives,should i say something to him or them? thanks 4 ur post anyway..
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