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hi i m new to all this . pl. advise and help me. I m newly wed (6 months) I live with my husband in US .my problem is my husband' s family that lives in india. i met my husband through matrimonial alliance and got married. We did not go for a honeymoon as my MIL & SIL said that they need him to take care of their needs. it was hardly one wek of our marriage & my younger SIL who is unmarried said to my husband that she want a house on her name and asked my husband to give money. He also gave 16 lakhs for house + 2 lakhs for interior to her . house costs 25 lakhs. so my sis in law who is also working said she will pay rest of amount by loan. Simultaneously she bought a car also. which i m not sure of but i think my husband paid for that too. as i have heard my elder SIL thanking my husband to help their sis in buying a car.So my younger SIL bought a house & car within Onme week of our marriage and registered it on her name although she is unmarried.We don' t have our own house we live in rented accomodatioon at that time.My FIl had made a house but when he died my husband sold it as it was not good. & put the money on his sister' s name.To tell u the truth i felt very bad with these things going on & on top of that i was subjected to neglection & back biting by my elder sis in law who is married. They use to hush hush behind my back. my husband was good to me but never evben consulted me about all theses matters.

Now my younger SIL is gettin married. So again we hhave to do all the expenses . My elder SIL had said that marriage will cost us 10 lakh so my husband is sdending that money to his sisters. We are a middle class family. & working class. My husband' s family is also middle class so i don' t understand how can we afford to spenfd 10 lakhs on marriage. But they think that he is US so thaey can mint any amount as they want.My SIL has also asked my husband to pay remaining loan amount as she is getting married & has to leave her job.Its so ironical she is getting married ,having a house that she bought from our money which she is never going to return & a car too. And on top of that my husband also does not say anythoing to them.And never questionns anything. Later i came to knw that my SILs asks for expensive gifts like jewellery, laptop,ipods etc. from my husband and he gives it to them. He also gives money (big amount) of 50000 or 25000 to his sis who is married and she also demands money from him although she is married in a very good family better than ourrs and is in a very good job. She always talks about money only and hates me like i m a olague. Though my younger SIL atleast talks nicely to me Though she also mints money ffrom her brother and keeps on saying that she does not want my husband' s money. I don' t knw wt to do. my MIL is also asking my husband to give atleast 5 lakh cah to her on marriage apart from all the marriage expenses.

One thing more when i buy something for myself ,my husband does not like it, he says its too expensive or that we can' t afford it or that we are middle class not rich people although i never bought an item more than RS 1500 that too in US. He loves me and i m also very happy with him. but i don' t understand that he cant afford to buy his wife anything worthh Rs 2000 than how come he not even ask a single question about expenditure from his sisters & mother. My MIl is getting my FILs pension Both my SILs are working. And they also keep on provoking my husband against me.I m depressed but loves my husband. Pl advice wat to do? mini replied. my subject says it all...no courage to say more abt the mil and sil' s