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Parents often beat and slap their children, quite oblivious of the fact that spanking perpetuates violence in children. But latest scientific research confirms that spanking teaches children to use aggression as a means to achieve their ends. It has been observed that children who have been spanked are more prone to low self-esteem, depression and acceptance of low-paying jobs. It has been observed that parents beat up their children only out of their inability to do anything else.

Here are some alternative strategies that can help parents to avoid spanking:

1. Do not spank, remain calm. If a parent loses control over his or her emotions, the child is very likely to play with them. Therefore, silence is the buzzword.

2. Take time off for yourself. Parents are more prone to use spanking when they haven't had any time to themselves and they feel depleted and hurried. take some time off for themselves to exercise, read, take a walk or pray.

3. Another frustrating situation where parents tend to spank is when the child hasn't listened to repeated requests. But the best solution is to bend down to your child's height, make eye contact, touch him gently and tell him, in a short, kind but firm phrase. Do not display your helplessness.

4. Explain logical consequences.

Did you know that continuous spanking can ruin your child's life? Discuss this topic! William replied. I strongly disagree. Do you know how many families i have seen being messed over because parents used these methods? The home lives are horrible. The children are very disrespectful. Why you ask because there is no punishment for doing wrong. When i have kids and one of them breaks a neighbors window i will smack him/her and then tell them that the have to replace the window there is no choice about it. i turned out just fine and so did my brothers and sisters. Another this you use the word beat to much there is a line between spanking and beating. What is with reasoning with a child? Would you reason with a criminal instead of punish him/her? There is no reasoning with a child either they do what they are told or they get spanked. I will leave you with this statment \";This is the saddest excuse for disiplining a child i have ever seen.\";

Thanks For listening Sapna replied. Hey! Thats a great article. I think we can all should keep the child's future in mind before spanking on him.

Normally parents shout or beat children so that they turn out to be a good human beeing in future. But parents are unaware of the fact that spanking is infact ruining their child's life.