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Dear friends
I am a suffered DIL in Indiaas usual. Ours is a love marriage, totally supported by my family and opposed by his family. We have a cute daughter of 5 years but having serious health problems, hence crèche option is not useful for her as I am a working mother. My MIL took her care for last 3-4 years but it was a very forceful action and her behaviour was very irritating, It was a very painful period of keeping our daughter for 8-9 hours with her. This year she said its not possible for her to take her care and fortunately my parents decided to settle in this city and now taking care of our child. I was on bed rest for the whole pregnancy period and nobody helped us in that critical period. My hubby is the most loving & supportive person in my life.
Now my SIL (just 1 1/2 month) is carrying and my ILs wants to bring her here from this month only for delivery. I totally opposed becoz she (all they three) behaved very cruelly when I was pregnant. I asked my hubby to tell them openly about not bringing her here for such a long period (almost a year).
Please give your advise on this whether our stand is OK? Anybody has the same experience, can share with me!
SAM replied. Thanks for the reply TH!
I have already hired 3 servants, one is a cook, 2nd is a maid and 3rd is caretaker of my daughter, that way there is no work at all for anybody. My problem is their behaviour. When they 3 are together,my house becomes a hell for me.
I already convinced my hubby and he conveyed the msg that we will bring her at the time of delivery only, u only go & stay with her, she agreed. Thank god! TH replied. Is hiring a maid an option? That way your hands will not be tied as much. Besides, it might be a good idea to be nice to your pregnant SIL. It will stand in your favor the next time they quarrel with you.