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Name: S P

My husband me alwyas have fight, because of some third person sometimes my MIL and sometimes my SIL. Althoug I don' t interact much with my SIL due to reasons in the past. Still he has problems. I have come to a conclusion that he has some pre-defined beliefs about me i his mind and he reacts thats way alsways. Even If I don' t do or say anything, he has a fixed view about things.
Recently he fought with me becouse of my MIL, I tried to tell him things so he got angry with me and started complaining that I says things to his Parents, when the fact is I never tell them anything. After a few days things were a lilttle sorted. Then today we were discussing something and a past issue came up. He had promised me on my birthday, that next month I' ll get money, we' ll get some gold for you. We saw some gold ornaments decided to take it next day. Next day he fought with me so I din' t go to take anything. After a few weeks, when I asked him about it, he said he has gieven off the money here and there.
I didn' t say anything. After a few months he said he wants to tkae a bike. I had some money so I got that. Then while taking the bike he said no ot it. Thenwe bought to gold and kept.

Now whenever I tell him , that you didn' t give me the gold u promised on my birthday. He says the Gold you bought also has my contribution.

Today, he said becuse of you I didnot take the bike, coz again you would say my mone.

I havn' tsaid that to him, while takin g the bike I told him to take proper care of it thats it..

I am really hurt. I have decided that I' ll give some amount in the house every month and thats it. No more doing anything for each other if this is the things he has in mind.

I keep usin g the money I have as required still he has such complains.. Better I live likea Paying Guest.

Things come back to normal, but such things always remain in mind.

I want to ask do working ladies give all there Salary home. Is it not the responsibilty of the husband to run the house primarily.
Also, he has never given me money take casre of the house hold chores. That kind of resposibilty he doesn' t give me then why shd I do anything for him.. or his house... Althoug I always end up using most of the salry for the household chores..

I just don' t see any trust in him

:::(((((

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