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Hey,

We always post our problems here.Y not for a change post something nice.When was the last time u felt great.It may be abt urself or someone else or kids or DH doing something for you. Chameli replied. hi Shravani

Nice thing to share.Implies beautifully on faith. shravani replied. Hi , I felt I should share my piece of feelings too! I have always trusted my husband above anyone else, He is so balanced, down to earth.He is unstirred by happiness and by sad things both. Sometimes I have felt that he is too cold, but I know that deep inside he loves me, is equally emotional, but men dont always speak out like us ladies do. Over our 10 years of marriage I have grown to love him more and more as I know that he is reliable, trustworthy, faithful which are more important things than other material things. And I know he trusts me completely, has faith that I will never think bad about him or his family, and has never encountered me on any inlaw issues we had.We have our fights , but they end up in a humourous way , neither of us take it too seriously. I feel that the relationship that a husband and wife share goes a long way in building strong families for the kids. Chameli replied. Hi Sona,Mehak & Aisha,

It' s nice to hear u people writing abt hubby.After all it is the credit we give to our husbands.I wish to share about my husband too.

Like everybody we have our share of problems.Ours is inlaws issue.And I just thought he wud never be caring and nice to me & stopped expecting anything from me and also assumed that he doesn' t love me.And one thing changed my opinion totally.It is: Recently I had a procedure(simple) in the hospital.I was a bit worried abt that.I didn' t express it to him.But he shud have seen it from my sulky mood.He took it his first job to comfort me before & after the procedure.It all went nice and after coming home I found him caring and comforting.I saw my mom in him.And now i am ready to forgive him for he' s not supporting me in front of his mom though he knows everything.

And i expected so many people to write here because whatever problems we have we all have something really nice to enjoy rt.May be not everybody likes to share such info. Sona replied. Yeah I too have a wonderful hubby...yes...not the filmy type...but does a lot of nice things.
But I am here to say when I felt really nice last time. That was on my birthday! Ofcourse my hubby did nice things. But it was my MIL who made me happy. She normally doesn' t celebrate anybody' s birthdays...but on that day, she had prepared kheer for me...and even gifted me some money and blessed me really nice things. That was a pleasant surprise. Mehek replied. My husband is also a very caring man and shows affection by cooking dinner on Saturday nights while he hands me a glass of wine and I can relax in the living room either watching TV or just reading my favourite book.

Sometimes my 2 year old daughter wakes up around 5 and we normally get up at 6:30 he will not wake me up if I am fast asleep, go and pick her up and bring her to our bed.

Also, if I feel like eating anything or going anywhere he will make it a point to take me. That applies to things I want as well.

This means the world to me and ofcourse I also do special things for him in return. But it' s just nice to see that he is such a considerate and loving person.

We are very close as a couple because we say I love you to each other every day, we call each other at least once a day and we kiss each other all the time! These things realy help to strenghten your relationship. Aisha replied. Hi Chameli,

I agree with you, just for a change and to make us feel better, why not focus on the good experience / memories.

Ok, I' ll go first...My husband is very caring and I love when he does something that shows he really cares, for example: he always makes sure that there is enough gas/petrol in my car and the car is well maintained. And when it is a bad weather (rain / snow) he makes sure he tells me before I leave for work to be careful and if I am at work, he calls to let me know it is raining outside and I be extra careful when driving. I know it is nothing for some people, but it means the world to me :)
Also he asks me, ' did you drink milk, did you take you lunch with you?' ( reminds me of my mom, lol) I always make sure he knows how much I appreciate him by saying ' thank you' with a smile or giving him a tight hug / tiny kiss on his cheek.

If we focus on day to day activities and make sure we appreciate our spouse / kids for their help / care, believe me it creates a positive atmosphere in the house and in a way will make us feel better.

Please don' t have those hollywood / bollywood type expectations from spouse, be realistic that why there aren' t any disappointments.

Thanks for reading,
Aisha