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I have 30 months old daughter. I am working women and I take care of her at evenings or weekends. She is very fussy and bad eater. Last week i fed her half a dosa for 3+ hours. All these drives me mad I end up scolding or hitting her. Last week I am sure I did not behave properly with her I hit her so many times on her cheeks and head out of frustration. I am feeling very very guilty I am not a good human being and mother. I am totally frustrated wither her eating habits, she is vvv naughty and cribs for small things. I know being a parent i need to bear ,I have health problem(asthmatic) and all this is driving me crazy. She never asks for food even she is left for 3 days ,she always thumb sucks and will be lying in one corner. She is a preterm baby and really concerned about her weight,now she is ok side. SO really worried about all this.. Pls pls help samyuktap replied. You know i usually dont hit my 3 yr old daaughter,i hit her 3 days back ,throwed thing on her..iam still repenting very bady for my idiotic act.

You have not mentioned anywhere about your family.
Children DO EAT THEY DONT STARVE.
The more you force her or hit her...more her negative atittude develops against food.
Here are few tips for happy kids...
1.Do spend some time with her...with some books,saying ryhmes with her,scribling on papers,
2.If you think she is getting crancky(if she doesnt have anyone to play with at home,no grannies or working dad)....take her out for a walk.
3.Maintain sttrict timings for her food.Dont give any snacks or dont let anyone else to give any snacks like biscuits,chips etc.
4.Remove all unhealthy food from your racks..develop good food habits for yourself,stay as an exemplary to your kids.
5.Try saying...woow yummy.....orelse get a plate ,dont offer her anything ,you start eating...she' ll be very enthusiastic about what you are eating.
5.And above all hiting your kids makes them adamant.They will not respond to anything.
6.Allow her watch tv only 30hr cartoon.
7.Try to make her food interesting.colorful...make her sit beside you in the kitchen (safely) and tell her you are doing it for her...allow her to touch dough etc...create interest in her..
8.Tell her stories.
9.And above involve dads participation.

Never hit your kids please....they are so adorable,make them feel they are special to you.
Ritika replied. Hi Rekha,

I have a feeling that you are the same lady who posted her problems as \" rr\" about her baby not coming to her and you hitting her because she was a fussy eater and also that your husband has been working from home for the last 2 yrs and you have been having several marital difficulties as well.

I went and read some of those posts..You got such good suggestions from people. Why don' t you follow them?

If I' m not wrong, you had posted a year back also, these very same problems and people had given you some good suggestions then also.

Your problems are never going to get solved if you don' t do anything about it.

Only thinking about doing something is the same as not doing it.

All babies are fussy eaters..some more..some less...your baby is behaving like a normal 2 yr old...please don' t hit her for that...

In one of your posts you said that your baby is your whole world...but honestly, does your behavior towards her show that? From any angle?

I read your words - \" She never asks for food even she is left for 3 days ,she always thumb sucks and will be lying in one corner.\" and felt so upset for your child. What are you doing when she is sucking her thumb and lying in one corner? Do you not go and pick her up and comfort her??

Are you playing with her, cuddling her, giving her kisses??

You might be hitting and slapping her because of your other problems as well..please do not take out your frustration on the little child.

All 3 of you (your husband, baby and you) need to spend time together as a family..your daughter might be getting affected by your stress..and that also might be a reason for her fussiness...

Do you have any family outings together?? to a park maybe?? do you guys have any fun together??

Why is your husband not with the 2 of you on the weekends..when that is an ideal time for family bonding...?

And next time you try to feed yr daughter..do it when you are eating yourself...after she sees you eating, she might be interested..then offer her something from your plate...if she doesn' t take it..don' t get mad..just give her a biscuit or cracker..if she doesn' t take even that..just put it in front of her...she might start eating herself...don' t make it into a power struggle however...if she doesn' t want to eat, leave it for the time being..try again after 20-30 minutes...

Lastly, why are you not sending your child to daycare and asking your husband to get a regular job??

In daycare when she sees other kids eating, she might also start eating...

And working at a proper job might relieve some of your husband' s bad behavior...

Please DO NOT wait any more...your child is seriously going to suffer emotionally if you don' t put a stop to all this slapping and hitting.

Being a parent is not easy..but the rewards can be great..so don' t lose hope or heart..

Your child will turn towards you when she finds that she gets love from you and not scoldings or beatings..she will smile at you when she knows that you will smile back at her and hug her and kiss her...she will come running to you when you will start playing with her and show her new things and places...

I wish you all the best!