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I am eight months pregnant and live in the UK. My family live in India. After 4 yrs of a difficult marriage, I managed to concieve... My husband was fighting with me during the first 3 months of pregnancy and then he was very good for the next 4 months. Yesterday we had a fight, as I asked him to help me in the kitchen (nothing has happened for the past few months) and he suddenly got very angry and did not speak to me. I then asked him why he is so upset and he started screaming at me and threw the dinner plate on the floor. I got very scared mainly coz I feel this is a step towards violence. I then left the dining area and went to the bedrooom and he followed me swearing and screaming about what else he expects from me. I dont know if he had a bad day, but I am very emotionally shaked by his behavior. I was just silent and it made him even madder and he started breaking 1-2 hangers in the cupboard. He then slept in a different room at night. This morning he came to me and apologised. and said his mannerism was not good... I just told him I did not want to speak to him, as I cannot get over how he suddely broke the plate and the hanger. I feel very scared. and upset, coz I am 8 months pregnant and he did not feel that for my sake at least not to behave like this. Also, I dont want him to behave like this in the future with our baby. I think he learnt this from his mother. He is only child and when growing up, his mother used to fight with his father in front of him. And she used to throw plates and other things around the house. I really feel very sad about why he would do such a thing at this time of pregnancy... He told him today he had a bad day, but I still find it hard to forgive him... Pls can you tell me how to handle this.. I am very scared that if I behave in an upset way, it will affect my baby too... sss replied. hey mommy to be ,
atleast feel happy that your hubby has behaved badly to you just once in the last 4-5 months since youve been pregnant....

I am now 8 months pregnant and have been crying almost every other day.I live with my hubbys parents and in the first trimester was too tired to cook anything for myself because of the nausea and vomiting, my mil would not make anything for me to eat, and I had to eat from outside , ( i am working ) although its bad to eat food from outside during your pregnancy. and my husband wouldnt want to hear anything bad about his parents so we would fight whenever i complained to him.

even now, he fights with me regularly, does not understand that pregnant women have mood swings, although we used to fight before i started carrying , we have been fighting more since i started carrying.. and when i tell my hubby that please understand i may not mean to be snappy or angry... it is just the pregnancy hormones , he says what if i am in a bad mood also.. I cannot take any nonsense from you etc....

i dont know what would happen or rather what is happening to my poor baby right now, because the child only hears me crying all the time....

so feel happy that this is a one time incident and that he even apologised to you.... Chameli replied. Hey,

Atleast for ur baby' s sake do not try to concentrate on him.Just make sure that u r calm.Don' t be depressed.Whatever issues don' t speak it now.You can speak everything to him and make it clear later when u have delivered your baby.

Forgive him this once.May be he had a bad day.Still that doesn' t explain this behaviour.Only that is going to do some good for u and ur baby.Leave him now.After you deliver the baby make clear to him that he just can' t keep this attitude and make sure that he agrees to change. Tanys replied. Hi Lady,
Even I mgoing thru the same phase in my life. I am 7 months pregnant too and my husband has been very nice with e so far(since I got pegnant)now all of a sudden he has started scolding me for small things. I too feel that he shud behave properly with me since Ia m pregnant and my child' s health migt get affected if I will keep myself upset and sad. But males have not been given that scense by God I guess. They are good with you as far as you keep saying yes for everything tey say. as far as u keep respecting their parents and don' t argue. I hate this world of Men.

I suggest you to keep calm as you need to think more of ur kid tan any thing else. I have heard that a pregnant woman cries , her chld also cries and gets tensed in mOM' s womb. So stay chill. Atleast ur husband applogized with you. My husband has never one that with me so far.