Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Yes, I am very sad and disturbed today and pouring my heart out at the moment seeking for emotional support and a lot of good advice.

We got married and moved to U.S. 2.5 years back. During our first 3 months of our marriage we conceived. It was one of those 1 cases that happens even if you take precaution. We both were totally unprepared for the child then and especially me cause I was without job, had no confidence in myself, and was trying to settle in the new phase of life. Since I wasn' t sure, I went ahead and took some home remedies (ate papaya and til) so that I get my period asap. I am not sure if that was the reason, but somehow I started getting mild spotting and i thought I got my periods back, but this did not stop at all so we went to the docs. And they suggested us that this could be a case of early miscarriage. Since we were not prepared anyways and also with the result, we got worried and thought the child might not be healthy even if we go ahead with it. So we waited until 7 weeks and went ahead and got a medical abortion. And till date I feel sad and depressed about it. Now, we desperately need a baby in our life and we' ve been trying since Nov' 07, and aren' t getting any success.

IS there anything wrong with me? I got a checkup done with Ob/gyn before we started trying and she said that everything looked normal. I am really getting worried. Please help me! timsi replied. motherhood is a god gift .i had similar case.we were also trying since nov but no sucess.but u hav to go in a positive direction.every mon a woman can hav only 80% chance of conceiving n only one day to get pregnant so move towads proper timimg,find out ur ovolution days n intercourse between every 48 hrs between those days n in odd timings may be in the morning or afternoon.rest for some time after intercourse put a pillow at the back.dont urinate instantly atleast 20 min.Best of luck .tel me if u get good news. v replied. ok. you need to understand that every month you get 24 hrs to get pregnant. That is the egg is out and waits for 24 hrs before it meets the sperm and miracle happens. Most of the time its the timing!. Next time make sure you make love from the 10th day till 18th day from your first day of your period. Try that for atleast 5-6 months before you go for a gyn. Also don' t make love with the baby making intension, rather let it be a casual one. You will get preg for sure.

All the best
-v rati replied. first of all swati u need to relax & calm down urself .The good thing is that u have conceived once which shows u can definately conceive again .
U r geeting 2 hyper with the issue & just thinking abt it only this can pose a hindrance in conceiving .Be relaxed & calm & divert ur mind .U shld ideally try for six months if not sucessfull see a good infertility expert .There is nothing to worry abt .Evrything will be ok.