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I am a sikh girl married to a marwari family. Although my upbringing was very modern my husband's family is very orthodox. I am an MBA Marketing and due to financial problems have started working very recently to support my husband and his elder brother who lost money in shares. I maintain all the marwari systemsi.e. palla on head, sari all the time and the works! I have a lovely husband and 3 1/2 year old daughter so I did not mind doing all this.
My inlaws accepted us soon after our marriage and i Have been staying with them ever since.
My elder co sister and I shared a very good relationship and her daughter and mine are of the same age. we had no major problems whatsoever, although my inlaws favour her daughter over mine.
Now recently my younger brother in law has got married to a rather immature girl. She although does all the work but the atmosphere in the house has become very uncomfortable. I go back and both my co sisters are in their own world. When I talk to them they talk but I have this feeling of being alienatted. They have their own sense of humour and keep giggling which I cannot relate to. They come from the same marwari culture.

Please help- as to what should I do? How to behave? I sometimes just keep off...but my daughter is with them and I am worried they may not be good to her.
Is it my fault any where? Please guide? harj replied. Hello!

I think your problem is you feel like an outsider. As you have not been bought up in the culture their are some things you may not understand. Why not try to talk to your SILs about their childhood and tell them about yours. You have the fact that you are all married in the same house in common and 2 of use have children - concentrate on the things you have similiar and this may help you to fit in.