Parents of Schoolgoers  Discussion Forum

Children don't take easily to criticism. Very often they turn defensive, angry and start sulking. This in turn angers you further, causing you to yell at them and insist that they \";better learn to accept criticism, or else. \";

Keep these 5 oints in mind so that it leads to constructive and not destructive criticism.

Be Specific: Dont start with a big lecture. Juts tell him what should be done.

Solution: If your child knows that he is wrong, let him only come up with the solution.

Suitable Time: Speak to him when he is free and a reasonabl cheery mood and not when he is watching his favourite serial.

Discuss: Have an open discussion with your child. Let him also speak up in this discussion.

Draw The Attention to Yourself: Instead of saying, 'Why didn't you call and say you would be late,' try saying, 'I was worried because I didn't know where you were, and if you were alright.'

When you shout at your child, does it lead to constructive or destructive criticism? Share with us!
Foram A Desai replied. yeah even a kid of 3 has ego, and when he/she fails in doing a task ,they know that they have made a mistake. If we start lectureing them or scolding them, instead of they realising the mistake.

Our lectures sulk the kids, doing them no good and they feel insulted. We need to treat them like grownups and talk to them maturely.

Todays kids are very smart and they too want to be talked nicely, without their ego getting hurted. Autumn replied. This was a wonderful article i have a friend who yells and screams at her children and i have wondered how to approach her without affendeing her this it is this article will help her. savita replied. very true.. raising children requires a lot of patience. we lose our temper so often, shout at time like our parents shouted at us. no wonder so many of us have personality problems and are insecure...