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Hi All,
I have been reading this msg board since so long.As usual I have in laws issue too.I live in USA.My husband is very loving and caring.There is no doubt in mind that he loves me more than any one else.So here is some background issues with MIL and SIL:
My SIL stays in my in laws place since she has to send her kids school, which is near to my in laws place.And she enjoys all the money we send to our inlaws.Which i don' t have problem with it.
*They just very very jealousy nature, simply because I live my life lot better than them and my husband loves me.Everytime we call india, i try to keep the conversation very very limited.Still my SIL is successfull in making arogant indriect comment, which is enough to spoil my week.I know that i can´ t change her.But how can I overcome that problem?.If i stopped talking to them my husband might get hurt. and i observe his face falls off if i don´ t talk to them.He clearly knows the problem, but he is not ready to listen to me any negative remarks from me.because he clearly knows we end up in having big fights.and he thinks they get a feeling as \" Biwi ka gulam\" .
Another thing, I don´ t hav parents and I am the only child, visiting to india is a biggest headache for me.I don´ t hav any close relatives whom i can spend my vacation with..if we go to india, my MIL expects us to stay with her for all days.I gave a suggestion to my hubby saying I need to relax ..let´ s go for 10 days to some resort or relaxing place.He is concerned about his mother´ s feelings, that I am taking her son away from her for 10 days.and he keeps on telling he goes there for only every two years..she is getting old(65yrs)..how long she is going to live? he doesn´ t want to split any times for me in those vacation time.And staying with my MIL and SIL is definately not a vaction for me & more over i am going to carry lot of negative thoughts from them and struggle to live them.And like other MIL´ s she talks very nicely in front of my hubby with me and hurts me when he is not around.
Now i decided not to go..immediately his face fell down..and depressed.My MIL is worried about her relatives and neighbours comments about me not going there.So she wanted me to come india stay with them, she talks sugar coatedly.
And here is more issues..I don´ t have any kids..and my MIL doesn´ t want me to have one, because she is worried it will effect their financial incoming from my husband.Even i never believed in such things, some incidents like kala jadhu for not having kids(5-6 astro from different places said the same thing), so I am not ready to go there since I feel she does some negative vibes on us if we go there.
Friends..please advice me what should I do?..It is just impossible for me to take the words coming out of their mouth, specailly my SIL.She talks very very arrogant, egoistic.
xxx replied. Dear aarthi, u know how ur SIL or MIL is, rite? then y do u have to consider their words? Pretend to be listening to whatever they say but do not consider it or take it to your heart. They are obviously jealous of you for the very reason that you stay in US with their kid and possess things which they think actually belongs to them. Laugh at their words but do not show it. They are so very immature. Pity your SIL, unfortunately ur MIL is her mother and no wonder she behaves so. DO NOT FIGHT WITH YOUR HUSBAND OVER THIS ISSUE. It wil leave a bad impression on him. Let him spend 10days of his vacation with his mother. However leave no opportunity of showing him their true colour.
And as long as ur kids are concerned,Kaala Jaadu is nothing but the hatred which they have filled in your heart. how will you have one with so much of tension and depression in you? Forget ur in-laws, they or their words mean nothing to you. Be happy, all you have to think of is your husband and your beautiful kids and you surely will conceive.
Try keeping yourself happy and content.... that is the doorway to your future kid