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Hi,
My problems are as follows:
1)My not so dear MIL decides what my hubby should wear to functions & he doesn' t mind one bit & she discusses with him what she should wear. She even asks her 35+ year old baby if he packed his underwears if he goes out of town.

2)She gets this (sort of asthma ) breathing Problem attack after having an argument with me..Any docs on board..pls let me know if this is for real? Does this actually happen in old age?

3)She tells all our stories to her daughters & her daughters talk indirectly .One such ex: I talk to my parents using a cell phone, yes in private & yes I do admit that I talk abt my MIL but whats wrong with that? She has probs with my cell phone.Now, when my SIL came over she asked her mom to call her other sister once but insisted her not to call on her mobile so that SIL' s inlaws wouldn' t feel bad.
There' s so much more !!! I feel like giving all of them a tight slap on their faces. They act like diplomats but only I know what their words mean. I wish they had guts to fight out in the open.
Bye chameli replied. Great Poppy!

Nice give back to MIL. Poppy replied. Sorry for repeating because I had posted this way below earlier. But I agree with Chameli.
Pretending not to feel hurt and actually converting difficult situations into a humourous one is something that we all should try at least once. My MIL wanted to hurt me and she compared my face to a goat. Guess what, after that every time our family went out for a walk or saw a goat anywhere, I started pretending to talk to the goat and invited this new \" family member\" home. I wanted to show her that by comparing her own daughter-in-law to a goat, she had converted all goats into her son´ s extended family. I repeatedly started speaking to goats in front of my MIL´ s family members as well. They all laughed too and they started teasing my MIL about it. She was so embarrassed that she never mentioned it again!! Of course, she never apologized either. But she thinks twice before making negative comments about me now!
Have fun at their expense...You will enjoy it better.
Poppy Chameli replied. just cool down young lady.

Once we are married we should really not try to take hints from others words.Try to shut urself in their faces.

When they say something like that don' t let your smile fade away.Just act as if u geuinely don' t understand their insult.They will feel success only when u respond to such comments.When i say respond i don' t mean words,just ur face expression will make them happy.

If you want to show cheerful expressions in ur face u r supposed to keep your mind calm.

Before ur SIL comes and all that,just make up your mind that your happiness for the next few days will depend only on you & not on ur MIL,SIL etc..And firmly believe for urself that no one can upset you so easily and that u won' t give room for people to be happy at the cost of u being hurt.





r replied. hi

First of all please cool down .
Leave your hubby and his mom aside let them be as they want to be. You try and keep yourself busy with some work.

The more you get angry the more they will enjoy you enjoy your life with your friends just dont bother.

Be happy