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Hi Friends,

pls tell me ur views.

I am a house wife. I keep the house clean, cook my husband' s favourite dishes, Vn guest come i make variety of dishes, take care of my husband and all his needs.
My husband he is loving and caring.

The problem is he does not respect what i do. He thinks doing all these things r useless. He wants me to go for job.
Even though he didn' t pressurize me to go to job,i feel very bad for not getting recognization for what i do.
I am a postgraduate if i want i can go to job, but my dream is to be a perfect home maker.
Vn i asked him before marriage he told home maker or working ,he told both r ok. In the first year also he said the same .

But after 3 years of marriage he says like this.
What to do? Why everyone give more importance to money than love and affection


Chameli replied. Congrats dear!

I didn' t know that u r expecting.
Tell him u want to be a nice mother and just sit back and enjoy ur pregnancy.
Forget about a job atleast until ur kid is ready for school.
Poppy replied. If he asks you to go to work again, invite him to the kitchen and start training him with chores. Tell him that household chores have to be shared and you will not compromise on quality by accepting second-class work from him. Tell him that you would like to train him so you can start sending resumes. When you decide to go back, make sure that he too comes home early and gets the stove started. Whether he had good intentions or not when he asked you to work, chores do not change. Your chores have to become 50 percent his chores. DO NOT ACCEPT ANYTHING LESS! well wisher replied. dont go for a job right now & also wait for ur kid to grow up for a year .Then you can start looking for a suitable job. In the meantime tell your husband openly that what he is asking you now at this point is totally unjust.Now it is abolutely his duty to take care of all ur needs. If he wanted a working wife he could have specified that long back.he should not create such mental pressure on you at this moment. Also make him share some household works with you & especially when the baby is born .That why he can have an idea of what u r doing all these days .But one main thing: do not expect any appreciation for your work from these husbands .They are absolutely thankless cratures.Do what you think to be duty & keep your self esteem upright all the time. r replied. Hi

If not full time try to do a part time job, please be independant you never know what happens.

Good luck Chameli replied. May be he is telling for your own good.He will also know that by asking you to go for a job he might lose some things that are of interest to him.

Ok leave it.Now just think about yourself.In three years of marriage not even once have you felt u need to take a job.I am a home maker too.But i have some health issues.I know how boring this life is.There is no challenge in just cleaning and cooking.You won' t get that sense of achievement.You just take a job.Check if it works for you.If it does n' t go well just quit know.You should feel proud of ur husband who says you to go for a job(not for money and just for ur sake).

He is feeling something very good about working and wants u to experience the same.