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Name: Hardeep

Hello Friends,

My husband has a cousin living in Northern California, we live in Texas. After more than 20 years of not being in touch and only seeing each other once way back when my husband was a child, now my husband wants to rekindle this relationship. I thought is was a good idea...until...

I was asked to call his cousin once, I did. The conversation went okay except in the background, his wife was yelling about \";who the *ell is on the phone?\"; he just went outdoors to talk to us.I sent pictures, this cousin never responded, I decided that if this man wanted contact with my husband, now, at least he knows where to reach him.

My husband isn't getting the picture. I think this man has his own family and life and really doesn't have time for us. I am totally okay with it, but my dear husband isn't getting the hint.

Along with all of this, I learned that this cousin had an arranged marriage way back when but when the time came to say \";I do\";, he fled and came back here where he was studying in college. Leaving an innocent girl at the altar. He has not been back home ever since.

During this time in the US, he dated an American girl (I have no issue with that), got her pregnant, she moved in with him and when the child started school, they got married but didn't tell his family nor hers. Eventually, his parents came to learn of the child's existence and then, the marriage.

So, with all that being said, I feel this cousin is keeping distance because he doesn't want to be reminded of his past (not that we'd bring that up)and possibly because his wife may not know the whole truth about him.

How do I nicely tell my husband to let this man come to us when he's ready instead of run him down?

Please give me some comments...
Thanks

H

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