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hi,

well my problem is not that big also,but somehow its disturbing me,so i thought that this is a good board for suggestions.

My SIL(hubby sis) has gone for some project out for a month and a half.She has left her daughter with us who is 7 years old and presently having her summer vacations.I stay with my in-laws who are suppose to be her Nana Nani.

The thing is that she is very troublesome.i still dont have kids but i love them and soon planning to have.She gets up at 10,takes hours to finish her breakfast,takes hours for bath...i mean i understand that she is on vacations and wants to relax,but then it disturbs are schedule.The whole day my MIL is running around her for her food,her bath etc.I know she is still young,but at 7 yrs she can have food herself by her own hands,but she wants my MIL to feed her.She watches tv for hours all cartoons,pogo,etc....no one can watch any tv serials when she is watching.im and my hubby are working,even FIL is working so we only come home at evenings.By that time we are sooo exhausted that going out with her in evening to play with her is difficult.My MIL is tired by end of the day.She feels either my hubby or me to take care after we come home.this is going on since some days.

See i know with kids patience and tolerence is required,but then child should listen also..neither she listen to me,nor MIL infact no one.If it was my child i would have tackled the way i wanted but she is my hubby neice if i scold her or do anything which displeases her my SIL is going to spoil peace of my house.I mean SIL is also very pathetic and i dont get along very well with her cause she is dominating.

The thing is that my MIL has heart probs and BP probs,she cannot run around all the time or even play for hours with children.Everyone in house loves her but this girl is very lazy and disobdient.My SIL thinks that her mom is a baby sitter.She could have kept her child with hubby also.

Anyways i want some suggestions for parents of children or anyone who wishes to reply how to keep her occupied...i made her join swimming classes,she is not interested,i made her join art and craft classes..she dosent go the whole afternoon she sleeps and night she cannot sleep and wants to watch tv till 12.see im still not a mother..MIL is not sooo energetic anymore.FIL and hubby are busy in their work.im waiting when my SIL returns,even my own bhabis keep their children strictly if they r not disciplined.this girl is strange and very disobient.she answers back my MIL also who loves her soo much.My hubby plays with her but he is not always,busy with other things.PLease someone tell me how to tackle a child like this,since my MIL is not well nowdays i have to manage most things in house. need advise replied. thanks for ur suggestions,but the main problem is her eating habits,she eats for hours and sometimes waste food.no one in my house can sit for hours and make her eat food.basically she is slow in everything,we make food which she likes noodles,cakes,chips etc but still she wastes,thats y someone has to sit with her during meals..its very irritating....all of us are just waiting for her mom to come back after a month.i wonder how her mom handles her.

thanks.... chi replied. Since she' s your sil' s daughter, its better you don' t meddle with her or even complain about her to your mil/hubby/sil. I' m sure they would all feel that she' s just a kid and you being a matured person acting crazy. Best thing is you also act busy. Once your mil or hubby feels the pinch of that little girl, they will take action. Make sure that they feel and understand what is happening not by talking but just by acting busy and not attending to her. Be/Act busy for your hubby' s or mil' s works itself. p replied. Do not complain abt this bad nehaving child to ur sil.ur will get all the blame n may even spoil relation with ur mil. instead discuss with mil n hubby n fil abt the problem of how to handle it.explain that with ur busy schedule u find it difficult to manage everything.why cant the child go to father for few days?also, let mil or hubby talk to sil for disciplining the child. let ur sil know that u all r having problem with kid' s behaviour.do not take it silently. Sreyashi replied. Even I dont have kids but disobidient kids heat up my head.However, if I would have been in your shoes, I would have made the girl speak to my SIL & would have told my SIL to warn her daugther.You can also speak to your SIL & let her know that your MIL is not very fit & you are inexperienced to handle the girl so your SIL better warn her daugther and ask her to behave herself.Also , Im sure if you occassionaly scold the girl,I do not think that anyone at home should mind knowing how indiscipline the girl is.