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I have been married for 4 yrs now and TTC from the beginning of this year. So far no luck. I am 34 and my hubby is 42. I was never on any birth control methods other than our own. I know my ovulation time and lately bought a kit to predict as well. The problem with me is I am getting more and more stressed every month when I find out I am not pregnant. On top of it I take it out on my hubby all my frusturation. He is extremely supportive and takes all my anger patiently. He refuses to go to the doc, insisting that we have not tried enough. He is very adamant about it although if I go after him he might. I would like to go see a doc since I feel that I didn' t get pregnant the last two years that we were not very careful. My stress is so high that I have started to get headaches and cramps.

Can someone take me through any experience you had and how you handled it. I know positive thinking is key but how did you overcome the frusturation and look at the big picture.

Appreciate any help. I am feeling very much down these days, feeling like time is running out. K.Radha replied. Apparently if you' ve been TTC for 12 months and have had no luck then it is time to speak with your doctor regarding your fertility. Give yourself a few more months of serious trying before you worry too much though, you' d be surprised what can happen in a few weeks. Also about your hubby not wanting to be checked for fertility issues, some equate fertility with virility so be gentle when talking about it. Also if you do see specialist help he will be routinely tested as a matter of course.

I think a lot of couples go through an emotional time when TTC so please don' t feel alone. Men can become very guarded about their feelings and women often display their upsets with increasing frequency, its a part of human nature. Many times in your life there will be tantrums and tears, and laughter also which you will both take turns sharing and supporting each other through. I am sure you find ways to make it up to your hubby when you' ve lashed out, just remember he forgives and loves you! I hope we' ll be hearing good news from your soon Shriya replied. Hi Anita,

I can understand what u would be going through. I have also just started TTC. But since you are trying from the begining of this year. better you get check up done. and there is no harm in visitnig doc. Hope everything would be good.
I know seeing period to come is really frustating. but we have to overcome. better you try to engage yourself in something u like. I would recommend take holiday and u go out for vacation. It will really help. and rejuvenate both of you. I am also planning to go for vacation next month lets c what happens. tell you feelings to somebody it will relax you. dont keep everything inside you.. normally it bursts.
And anytime u feel writing this could be the best place to write. As we all r sailing in the same boat.
Take care.
Shriya