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well myproblem is that my MIL is a very emotional lady.On small small things she becomes sensitive.i dont know why is she is like that but because of this nothing can happen in my house without her permission in fear that she might get upset.

i must mention here that she is nice to me(touchwood)and cares also.not that ill treating kinds.But the problem is she is sensitive,not very practical.i talked with her lots of time,she has confidence in me,but sometimes her behaviour is strange.Even my FIL is very persistent about things.He says 5-6 times the same thing thats irritates me as well as my MIL.if someone refuses to do what he wants he feels that we condemn him.i hardly say anything to them,but they think my hubby is a baby...they keep on worring about him,i know he is their only son and they love him,but they should relize tht he is married now.even my hubby gets irritated on certain repeatedly question they ask but because of MIL sensitive nature and FIL adament nature we both dont know how to tackle them.we like them and they love us...but somehow there is no peace in house because of so many complex personalities..MIL sensitive,FIL adament and persistent,Me emotional and hubby practical...so i have arguments with hubby on small things.Please give suggestions how to adjust to their nature.... shona replied. I completely understand your predicament,sometimes with added responsibilities you tend to get tired and may want only a peace of mind,but sometimes if they aren' t troubling you in any manner,giving them your much needed love,and patience would be best.I know you are already doing it and kudos to you and all your efforts.As long as you are respected and loved by your in-laws give them back the same.
All the best. xxx replied. thanks for your replies,i know patience is the best way to handle things.After our marriage lots of things have changed in the house.even my suggestions in house matters are appreciated.May be im loosing my patience because of increasing responsibilities...i try to be more sympathetic and listen to them more patiently as well as advise same o my hubby.rest is fine. shona replied. You know something to this I have only one thing to say a story.
A father and son(aged 13) were sitting by the fireplace one quiet evening,the father kept asking one question to his son\" Did you switch of the stove\" ,to which the son replied \" Yes dad I have\" .
After sometime the father asked his son the same question again and to this the son replied \" Yes dad I have\" .
This went on for sometime,and then the son could not contain himself and shouted at his father\" this is the 20th time you have asked me this question dad,yes I have switched it off\"

To this the father replied \" Son when you were little you have asked me many questions zillions of times ,and you still do,I have patiently answered your questions and will still do ,I never lost my patience not even once,I asked you just one question 20 times and you Shouted at me\" .

All I want to say is ,there are lots of people with troublesome, insulting,interfering and torturing in-laws.
When you have in-laws who love you and treat you like a kid I know its irritating ,I also know that when you reach their age you will surely feel the same about your own kids,but by then it will be too late to revert back time.

As long as you have loving in-laws just listen to them be with them.Old age brings about a lot of fear,insecurity,just imagine how you feel as you keep aging,as long as we are in our 20' s we simply don' t care the realisation only starts creeping in once we enter our 30' s how our parents would have felt.
Just be sympathetic enough,if they are torturing you its a different thing.
Think about it. r replied. When was reading your post that its just the same problem even i fsce everyday.But what have i been doing is just be quiet , i just dont interfere much .Would suggest you the same let your hubby handle his parents but you also see to it that your suggestion is considered .I and my hubby just dont bother much we are always out but still my inlaws will come with some or the other problem , we both just listen and then suggest we see what to do .

That the best thing you can do.