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Dear dddd, anu and other friends
I am sorry for not writing here. Situation has taken tough turns. My husband has sent me divorce notice. I am facing it legally. Me and my baby are in safer hands now. I cannot write more till the case is closed. After that i am going to write here as well as publish my bitter experience on newspapers.
I thank you all for your help. God is supporting me through providing a supportive environment and through good people like you.
With love
Sumathi dddd replied. Glad to know how you are doing.First of all its your husband' s loss if he doesnt realize your value.Dont even once think its your fault. I always look at it in this way,if husband' s misbehave with us its their bad luck they didnt have a loving relationship with us. See they can not get better wives than us. Even they know that. But the inflated ego they have of being a man wont permit them to accept it.if things have gone so far your husband will realize sooner than u think. Only then he will not be in a position to apologize and get u and the baby back in his life.Once again if he gets married he is bound to compare her to you and find u better.
God is seeing everything. My grandma always tells me God will also help bad people in their bad deeds till a limit. once it reaches a limit he wont help and then its the turn of bad people to repay for all their past bad deeds. Then they realize .But some people never do. Only they will be lonely people all thru their life.Is it worth it . Definitely not.
Dont worry . If someone trips we only move forward. Think of this as you tripping. The most important thing is you and baby are safe .I know its very difficult to get thru this. I have been almost there.now also i am in 2 minds about staying in this marriage.
Anyway take care of yourself and the baby.Post back about what happened. it will really be helpful to people who shared your experience.we will be a lot relieved.Best of luck and take care of you and the baby. sakhi replied. Sumathi,

Most important stay strong take care of yourself and baby. Glad to know you have support. Now your lawyer is the best person to advise you.
It is always sad when relationships break but this is not the end only the beginning of other good things God has in store for you.
Sumathi how is it going with the job situation? Even if he withdraws your GC petition try to get on H1. Many employers are very sympathetic here if you explain your situation. Again a lawyer would advise you best in this regard. Even if you have to go back to India as a last resort do not take it to heart. At least you will have your family around you. I do not know what your area of work is but do look for jobs in India too.
Take care our prayers are with you. DO post on your well being.