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I am married for 3 yrs, now i am 3 months pregnant, my married life was great with little ups & downs, but now things have changed a lot my husband is not at all interested in me as before, i think we developed this huge gap in between us with the pregnancy, he is always busy with his work or seeing more TV at nights. He is not huging me or kissing me as before, he is also not careing for me, i am doing the whole house work, but still he expects me to do extra work for him like giving him coffee in the morning, but i have this badly morning sickness. I am feeling so sick, lonely and depressed, ladies pl. help me to get my husband back to normal, and let me know if i did any thing wrong.

juvinile replied. Sweety,

Ask me, I will soon be a father just like your husband. And I too have the same behaviour towards my wife. You know why? I feel less important. I feel this kid is going to take my importance away before my wife. I feel after this kid is born my wife wont be having enough time for me, not for sex, but simply some romantic time with me. everytime it will be baby baby and baby. I am feeling lonely so I confine to myself with all my fears. Watching more TV at nights means to just busy your mind with something other than the fears gripping me. Why I am busy with my work because I think you would no longer need me, so I should keep myself busy not to think of those fears. The kissing and hugging is not there because I have an impression that you wont reciprocate now since all your kisses and hugs are for your child now. And men have a basic problem of communication. I wont tell what my fears are unless elicited lovingly by my wife.

So what your job should be? Give time to your husband how short it may be but reserved time slot for him. communicate and discuss. discuss what you feel and take out from him what he feels, what makes him dejected? You give him time and he will also respond. Remember even if he is indifferent these days he still loves you. Make him feel important. He is the same husband of yours.
Try to overcome your hormone controlled behavious. patience has its reward Sweety replied. Thank u very much for your replies, they made me feel better, i will try to follow your suggestions. Thanks a lot once again. Congrats! replied. Congratulations! on your preganancy.

First of all I want to say \";It happens!\";. You know why? Because this is something new...something strange that you or your husband never experienced before! This is PREGNANCY, which brings tons of happiness to your family and tons of pressure on both the partners.

He might be little hesitant because you are pregnant. He would be afraid that he would cause harm to his kid, by making love. That might be the only case. You can read through all those preganacy related things together which would make him feel and realize that sex would not cause any harm and more caring to the mother improves child's health!! If you are tired of morning sickness, tell him so. Ask him to make coffee by himself for a while until you are comfortable with your preganancy.

I am 5 months pregnant now. I have been through this \";first trimester syndrome\";. But luckily my husband was better than ever during that time to me. Thanks to him.

Good Luck to you too.
anu replied. First of all congrats for yr pregnancy.Its a wonderful time for any women (Of course with lots of discomforts and pains) . Pls Pls Pls dont take tensions as u will or rather u are harming your child. Talk with your hubby as sex or hugging ,kissing is not all banned during preg.But usually females go thru lots of harmonal changes becoz f that females become very sensitive ,Read together aricles abt pregnancy, he might understand you better. Search for preg realted sights like Dr.Sears/babymed etc etc. Dont end yr sex life , continue it somehow. Take him to the room where you are getting your sonograpy , monthly check ups done. Involve him , and get involved with him