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i am married and have a 5mth old daughter , hubby loves her and care for me sometimes the only thnhing is he belongs to a conservative and orthodox fmly and belons to small town in punjab whereas me born brought up in metro . acc to him wife shud be mans save and act like his jooti. he hates my parents for no reason and my prents doesnt approve his unreasonable behavr and actions. he wants them to treat him like a god as he is thr sil. He doesnt even let me talk to my parents . As I am the eldest and my younger sis still has to get married this step of leaving him comes in the way. regarding finacial issues, i f i were to leave him i wont reside in canada I will go back to delhi and stay with mom and dad till I find a good job and then move out of there house. Coz living here alone will be impossible with daycare and rent etc.
regarding him, he belongs to a lower middle class family and i was forced marriage to him as I had to divorce from my first marriage because tht many after marriage came out he is Gay. So my parents were in a shock after my first marriage in whom to trust somy cousins fatherinlaw told us abt him. He thinks tht he has done something so great by marrying a divorcee tht my family shld touch his feet. I di tell him tht I had no sexual relations with my first husband and I am still a virgin but still he taunts me tht I have slept wiht my ex. THe wants my parents to treat him and his mom and dad like kings and a spl treatment to them coz they mrried me.
He never treats me like a man shld treat his wife. He wants me to obey all his commands like I am a dumb servant and If I argue or objects to his wrong say or action i am a whore then and then my family is sweared upon so badly only i know hiwi hear all those words. it is like drinking poison and keeping it to u.
He has made mylife 1 living hell. He treats me like I have no self respect and I shld say bad words to my parents for marrying me to a gay men and ruining my life. Although he was gay but he and his familly treated me with love and care sometimes I feel i shldnt have divorced from him and not come to this hell.
I am so depressed and i cant focus on things. I dont want to do anything for him
I just want to runaway far from him where he cant reach me.
My aunt told me to see if things can go normal with him for fw mths as kids do need a father and it is hard sometimes for a woman and a kid w.o a father.
I just want to know abt all the other single moms who are raising there kid and earning too. Please advise shld I move to India or stay here in canada or stay with him.

After all this I called 911 recetly on him as he was trying to strangle me....they warned him and left him and are checking on him every 10 days. I am plg to go to India by the end of May and he is threatening me he will turn me in for Child Abduction....He says if u will go to ur parents dont ever come back to me and says bad words abt me and them. I want to go for a change and jusst overcome this whole thing in co of those really care and love me. but he is doing things so I shouldnt go.
Please advice
dddd replied. nn I think i answered u last time too. If things have gone so bad,Run while u can. Dont worry he cant do anything about the kid. The kid is as much yours as it is his. Its more yours than his as you gave birth to the kid.your in laws have responded just like mine did. My Sil being a woman suggested i shud adjust. I just wish her daughter and she goes thru same i went thru. She ruined everything of mine. Got a filthy saree for engagement didnt let my husband spend anytime alone with me. Always was with him.and hugging him all over.She is a cheeky woman who told my husband all women who work will be leered at by male bosses and collegues. She herself works. Isnt it filthy to talk like that. Also my bil is one more character. all the abuse my husband learnt from him. Thats why family atmosphere shud be inspirational not a unstable household like this.
Get away while u can. Call the cops and have a tpo on husband and leave the country then he will not be in a position to do anything. Dont repay your husband' s debt.My in laws also suggested the same. Let me tell u if their own parents wont repay it why shd our parents do.Why just becoz he is sil he is royal.Get in touch with a lawyer asap.
Take care of you and the baby and post regularly so that we know whats happening and if positive will be relieved.