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hi chandra,
i went thru ur query today, and thought u might not check ur old query, so am posting u a new one. hope u read this mail.
i too am a christian from india, right now in the USA, but i am not from goa (i'm from bombay). i am familiar with people in goa and let me assure u that they r very free natured and i am sure u wont hv much problems at all. i am saying 'much problems' cause u may hv few since there is a vast difference in both the countries - India and USA, so u might hv a little problem with the restrooms, weather, food if u r not used to spicy indian food, etc. but culture wise i think u will be fine. and we christians basicially dont hv many cultures as such. we r very free, almost like most americans. u wont hv to follow any traditions, specially in goa.
Parents of the boys do hv a bit more control on the boy, but since u both will be living in the USA, i dont think it will be an issue. Just try to speak to them on the phone (after ur marriage) as often as possible since that is expected from the d-i-l (to be in touch with them).
When u go to visit them (this time in aug and also anytime in future), it is a good idea to give them gifts (u give it to them urself, meaning not thru ur B.F). If there r kids in his family, chocolates would be a good option (other options r toys, clothes). For elders some kitchen items, perfumes, other things like wrist watches, cosmetics, etc. will be fine. they will be happy to see that u thought abt them and brought things for them.
Goa is a very very beautiful place with lots of beaches and beautiful churches. Be sure to visit each and every tourist place in Goa. I too want to eagerly visit Goa during my next visit to India.
I read abt sorpotel in one of ur mail. Wow, reading abt it made me feel more hungry... yum.. sorpotel is made from pig (i dont know exactly what parts of pig) but its very very delicous and i just love it.
Bye and all the best. Let us know of ur trip in goa once u return. Enjoy the delicous goan food.
Love
Susan Chandra Traiforos replied. Dear Susan, I had not checked the board for awhile so it is nice to see your note. I am very excited and have been studying Goa on the internet in preparation for the trip. It looks like I will go in November about the time of USA Thanksgiving. There are many questions I would like to ask you, could you email me and in the subject line please put india parenting so I will not delete it...Thanks! v replied. hi susan yr suggestion to chandra in very very fine and practical.as we dont know some culture peperly we often tend to worry unneccerly.now after yr suggestion she must feel cinfident.i want to be in contact .