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my life goes as follows

my marriage took place 4 years back with lot of adjustments as before marriage we came to know that they were not nice people and my mil has affairs there is also one swamiji who lives with them we r not used up to all these when we want to quit this match my mil warned us that she will see our end so we have to obey as they are financially and socially better than us and they have not revealed that their son was partially handicapped due to accident before our marriage they used to be unvited guests to our house but they r not even invited guests now to my parents place me and my hubby stayed in hyd these 3 years though i received trouble as i was far from my mil's place i was little safe now they have called us to their place to look after the family business so we obeyed my hubby has to listen always to her mom in this house everyone ack as puppets to her things i was very obedient but they never cared i have to do all rubbish things they say it is the dil's duty but when it comes to looking after it is different they send all the money to her daughter in US i do not say it is wrong my hubby is looking after business with my fil but do not pay us anything for that otherthan feeding us we are like childern here not grown up adults. i am not allowed to cook as i am interested in cooking and my hubby used to praise me and it has to be shown to others that my bahu is not doing anything i had grown up and have to do all the things. for their prestige matter as i was married in my final year of degree they have asked me to do law but they do not allow me to go for higher studies. I want to independently with my hubby as it is very hard to live with them. it looks like to trouble us only they have called us here. though understanding the situation my hubby does not want to hear it from me and he says we have to stay with them only as we have already quit our job and i have to look after my parents. It is like my mil's and pil's do not allow if i ask them any help and blame me for not doing what should i do. i do not have childern yet i am trying for them gone to many doctors they say we both do not have any problem.
I am not able to control my in-laws trouble and complain to my hubby which he does not like and we have figth observing this my mil is taking more advantage.my hubby says they want to make me dummy.I got married even though my hubby is fat and black not to trouble my parentsfor alliences and roaming around but i am troubling them in not having good in-laws.really i feel like killing my self. I am here still for my parents and my sister.

please please please help me out
dont worry replied. dont worry,

its common with the in-laws, u have to be strong from now onwards, just go on ignoring ur mil and be nice to her when ur hubby is around and dont do anything she says when ur hubby is not there. just be strong and be confident about ur self, u said they are rich just tell ur hubby as well as ur fil that u want to go for higher studies at any cost and cannot sit at home be brave
best of luck