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Hi,
As a tradition,girls have to leave their homes after marriage which make the parents of those girls very insecure and lonely in old age who have only girls. And the girls conventionally can not look after their parents without the help of their hubbies. Whereas boys can do any thing for their parents without any permission from their wives. This is a very pitiable situation.
MY SUGGESTION IS :
GOVERNMENT SHOULD MAKE A LAW THAT WHEN A BOY GETS MARRIED, HE TOO WOULD HAVE TO LEAVE THE HOME OF HIS PARENTS AND SETTLE AT A THIRD PLACE WHERE BOTH BOY AND GIRL WILL LIVE. THIS SHOULD NOT BE CIRCUMSTANTIAL OR OPTIONAL FOR THE BOY BUT SHOULD BE STRICTLY MANDATORY. LIKE EVERY GIRL IS TOLD AS SHE GROWS THAT ONE DAY SHE WILL LEAVE HOME …..THE BOY TOO SHOULD GROW ON SIMILAR LINES.
This will give girl´ s parents an equal and legitimate status ....just like parents of a boy behave after marriage. The punch of the suggestion is that boys´ parents should have the same insecurity that one day their son too wud leave home and it may help in reducing the ´ SON SYNDROME´ AND EMPOWER THE WOMEN.
Whats ur OPINION ?? sss replied. wat ceekay was saying is right...

i live abroad and wat i have seen is parents live on their own and kids go out someday.Elders over here, live more gracefully without any issues of kids not taking care of them etc,DIL problems.....I dont say this is only complete good approach for india.Because we have our own setup of families ,cultures etc.

Even I feel men should come out of their parents home and establish his own family.It will really help couples to get to know each other well.Because most of the MIL and DIL dont get well with other creating some many disturbances.Obvious effect will be on women who is complete new entrant into the family..while men really dont understand.
When girls parents are left alone,i think girls should equally support their parents like how their husbands do(whether partner agrees or not).And give parents a very good emotional support and confidence) that they can do much better on their own.(thats wat i do).

And most important women SHOULD earn their own money for their independence.

vimpi replied. I had already replied to you earlier.
So I will not repeat myself.
I think there is one basic problem with your suggestion. \" Have the sons parents experience the same insecurity as the girls parents\" . This seems like a sadistic approach of getting your back at the husbands parents.
Instead it would have been better if you had said that \" How do we make parents of both sons and daughters get the same feeling of security in old age witgout having to depend on their kids\" ?
If you phrase it that way it will be much better. Solutions cannot be reached if we seek revenge for our suffering. If we want to not pass on our suffering to the next generation we must face the fact that we too will grow old one day and then ask ourselves how can we feel secure in old age without depending on our children? Unless we identify the root causes and seek to uproot them how can we expect a solution?