I am not sure if I shud post it here.I am first time pregnant and my hubby wants to bring his parents. I really feel I shud have my mom here with me. Any advices? priyanka replied. my case is the opposite.i told my husband that my mil should be here at this time and he recommended me to call my mom as he felt i would be more comfortable with my mom.i usually have a problem with formalities and waking up early etc when my mil is here.but i am calling neither of them cause i felt i would be most comfy when i am on my own.my mil will be here during delivery.my in laws totally understand the comfort part with parents cause my sister in law has spent all 9 months with them comfortably.anyways,ur mother is your own and nobody can take her place.inlaws can never be your own,however good they may be.is she going to treat you like she treats her daughter.no! aparnaa replied. Hi Sweth,
yeah ..even i faced this situation..
i am in b'lore..but i told my hubby very clearly but in a sweet way like how comfortable and free i can feel with my parents around..i quoted some situations like , i can ask my mom to massage my legs when i have leg pain but may hesitate asking to my MIL etc..he understood and now my mom is with me ..
so dont worry..explain him and he will understnd for sure..
all the best..
take care..
luv,
aparnaa bhanu replied. I know it's a sort of delicate matter .. but just try to conceince ur hubby sayin ur needs and feelings and make him understand that u feel free with ur mother rather than parents..and I agree she can b of much more help to u than there parents...just make a comprmise that he can bring his parents after all the things settle with delivery.hopefully he would understand. Aarti replied. Hi Sweth,

I understand how you feel. I really think that having your mother will help you immensely. Does your husband have a sister? Usually, MILs (even the unreasonable ones!) understand the importance of having your own mother after delivery.

I am not in a position to judge the relationship with your husband. But can you gently explain how it will really help to have your mother? You could work out a compromise that MIL can come a few months after your mother. Do you have friends who have already had children? You could call them and casually discuss how their mothers helped (those whose mothers came!).

I have found that each family has unique practices to deal with a new mother during the post-partum period. Having both moms at the same time could cause conflict, however well being each advice could be.

I am not sure if you will breastfeed. The presence of my mother was crucial in helping me breastfeed my son.

Don't get too tense. Just calmly approach (sweet talk!) your husband about it.

Best wishes and hope things turn out your way.

- Aarti suzie replied. Yes you shld call your Mom too the more the merier but after delivery only you should decide as to what has to be done (since their advises may be traditional)