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my life is a mess. i dont know where to start.
i just graduated my high school but taking extra classes that i need later on.
before i always used to pass my classes but now i am failing my classes.
i cant study, i just thinking about my boyfriend
i dont know if he loves me.

we were chatting on msn and he got mad and he said I AM NOT ANNOYING, i call him everyday(before he told me to call him everyday, sometimes even every hour)
he also said i am a satalight.
then he said he said because he was mad me.
he swore at me and i swore at him.
i said a lot of means things to him.
wat should i do or say?


my mom does not belive me beacuse my sister found about him but told mom. when she asked me i said no. but then she also saw phone cards and letters we sent to each other. she always thinks i am a liar.

before i support from friends but they gone to usa, they have the perfet life. they r married,
when i had a hard times to used to talk to me.
then i only had my boyfriend left, he is long distance but now these problems.

everything is a mess. wat should i do? hvt replied. Yes, NB,
harsh and shocking as that may sound, I do not think you are really in love anymore with him.
You are more in idea with the fact that you love this guy and have to stick by him no matter what.

One of the main things in love is RESPECT. Since it looks like he has no respect for you, you are like just holding on. Don' t fear. It is okay to let go and move on.

And most important, you are no ' slut' like you said, if you leave him and later find someone else. And remember, you will come across someone good when it has to, not necessarily tomorrow, ok? God has his timings, and his plan, and his reasons too. So just believe in that and move on.


Take charge of your life.
Realize your parents ARE really your friends too.
They wish well for you always.
Make some new friends, not necessarily guys.
Most important, concentrate on your studies. It will do you a hell lotta good in your life. At any point.

Finally, believe in yourself, RESPECT YOUR OWN SELF first.

Bye,
take care of yourself,
warm regards,
Hasita dia replied. Dear NB,
u can feel this board as ur friend and share ur problems ,DOnt feel lonely.

Ok ur problem is simply ur heart.Ur mind is clear that ur boyfriend is causing u troubles and u r losing good future u really deserved.
But It is ur heart going crazy and putting u in troubles.

1. Just try to kick him off frm ur life. Decide firmly not to be in contact with him. Remeber many times that he said u r annoying, And start hating him. U can definitely control ur heart .When u felt nice about him u instucted ur heart to love him . But now u know its spoiling ur future and ur image. So strongly advise ur heart not to like him anymore and start hating seriously.Though he comes in touch ignore and ignore him. U feel like winning while u r ignoring him.

That really makes u very happy .If u ignore him each time , u get confidence that u have good control over ur mann.

2. C' mom, Tell ur mom u r sorry for what u did and ask her to forgive u.Also tell her u r going to concentrate on studies again. Hug and kiss her with a repented heart. Ur mom definitley guide u to a best destination .


U r still a little girl and u dont need a boy' s support , concern or care. U can emotionally depend on ur paernts and can expect love frm them. JUST because of a stupid and immatured boy, dont spoil ur image in ur circle.OK?! Pl give ur life a meaning .Dont get stuck with meaning less thoughts and feelings.
Ur feelings for him r not worth giving a thought.So simply forget and live a happier life ever.
Keep us posted.

Reader replied. Hi nb,

You seem to be pretty childish.

Just one thing, you are pretty small to put ur life in a mess. Realize one thing yourself, WHO IS THE REASON OF UR LIFE' s MESS???When you get the answer, just throw that reason out of ur life.

Life is a beautiful gift given by god. Also try make ur mother or any close relative as ur best friend rather than any outsider.

Boyfriend' s come and go, Its normally said \" yeh nahi to koi aur sahi\" ... but initially become something in ur life before making ur life a mess again.

Aarushi replied. You want an honest opinion??

You need to take a break from your boyfriend and concentrate on your studies.

Failing classes is not good. It will affect your future life, your career, everything!

You need to do a reality check. Face the fact that your boyfriend might have moved on from you. It does not appear that he is in \" love\" with you any longer. If you keep running after him, you' ll appear desperate, which is not a very attractive thing in a girl.

You are only 15-16. You' ll meet tons of guys in future. Think of this relationship as a learning curve.

Also build more trust with your mother. She thinks you are a liar because you DID lie to her. For starters, apologize to her and tell her that you are going to focus on your studies from now.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and take control of your life. Clean the mess that you yourself have created and you' ll feel better. nb replied. i meant he said i am anoying, i wrote not