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KLM AND VIMPI THINK I AM not a GUY, NO I AM A GIRL!



VIMPI---- u asked how and why you spy on sil.. how- i have Basic computer skills (common sense)!WITH BASIC COMPUTER SKILLS U CAN DO ANYTING!

why did i spy, blc had to tell brother and mom and dad what’s she up to! she trying to break my mom and bro up.. WHAT SHOULD I DO, SIT AND WATCH! I DONT THINK SOOOO!

my parents,bros, sils, and i live in one house!

how sil treats my parents is GOOD IN FRONT OF BRO! but calls me mom names! my mom and dad r really sweet! they treat her really good, and i was really happy when they got married, but i HATE HER NOW blc she is trying to ACT SMART!!!


before sil came to usa... we lived together....my 3 bros and 2 NICE SILS.
but a *** came to the family... We still live together….

i am not saying he should not spend time with his wife.... but we r good kids.. we don’t FORGET about mom and dad!!!!

the husbands should tell his wife.. my mom dad r important to me,. he will not move out and forget about them... which my brother said before they got even got married..

THE REASON I TALKED ABOUT SIL IS THAT THERE R SOME PEOPLE IN USA...BLAMING STUFF ON PEOPLE WHO LIVE IN USA...
i am saying maybe THEY SHOULD CHANGE THEMSELVES FIRST!
for god' s sake what cant u understand????
my message is very clear, i used proper grammar..

and vimpi and KLM if u don’t know what I am saying? JUST ASK!

another thing every women should know.. when u get especially in the Indian culture) U HAVE TO CHANGE URSELVES.

IF I WANT TO SAY SOMETHING/.. I WILL SAY IT, VIMPI AND KLM IF U HAVE A PROBLEM THEN DONT READ KLM replied. I really pity you GUY/GIRL ' JAY' whatever.
I think you are out of mind.
You urself don' t know what to tell.
Please take a good rest.
Your brother will take care of his wife and his mom.
You can concentrate on your studies/job whatever.
Today husband and wife will fight and next moment will compromise, the people who interfered will become bad, so kid, please don' t interfere with your brother' s life.
If your SIL is troubling you and your mom, she will get fruits for that.
You don' t worry.
You can take care of your mom in place of your brother.
Just leave them alone. help replied. jay how do u know that only ur bhabhi has sent that post ??

can u plz tell me those basic computer skills by which u can know who write messages ....well its true that on one computer we are able to know which sites being opend so far but u can never know wat one write as if one closes the site where we write online then u cant read a single word.as all data get lost.

and here so many ppl keep writing by so many names nobody knows who is who.

chalo i agreed that u read a post online and the story u felt was similar to ur bhabhi' s story that means what ever she wrote was true she is facing all that toture in ur home ...and still u say that she is bad and trying to act smart cmmon if she is facing so much then kanhaa ki smart.


uwant to say that ur sil calls ur mom by her name .....why???ur other sil' s never say something to ur pert this sil.

is she good towards ur other sil' s??

one thing i dont understand MIL choose dil for themselves after marriage why they start hating them.
is fear of loosing their son comes in mind??

think and then give answer

let ur brother handle this all she is his wife u dont interfear in this .ok help replied. hi,
if the women u are talking about is ur SIL(bhabhi) then plz answer some of my queries.
1.why a women will write here her problems if she is leading a peaceful life .
2.if a women is far far away from her home with the ppl who dont like her then what she will do.
3.if any women' s brotherinlaw spy about her daily activity then wat she will do?
4.if a women' s husband beat her and no body from her sasural help her then wat she will do?
5.like any male u say ur parents are so very nice lets suppose they are god to u ..ok but if they are so nice then why they dont help their bahu when their son beat her?
6.ARE U MARRIED? WHAT IS UR AGE? WAT U DO STUDY OR JOB?
7.if u say that she is poising the relationship betw ur brother and ur parents tell me the reasons .
me and my husband stay far far away from my in laws but my husband doesnot forgot them we call them every
sunday and wednesday.

STAYING AWAY DOESNT MEANS WE FORGOT.

and one more thing

WHICH WORLD U ARE STAYING HAAN COMMON KID GROW UP THIS IS 21ST CENTUARY AND U ARE TALKING OF 18TH.

wat u said
{another thing every women should know.. when u get especially in the Indian culture) U HAVE TO CHANGE URSELVES.}

why so why shud a women only change c' mmon its true when we get marry then just for one person everything cannot change BUT adjustment shud be there from everybody even our FIL adjust .

u know something i m a proper delhite a girl who has never seen any orthodox rasmey and i got married to aperson who' s family belongs to a village
now imagine janhaa mere aaney sey pahley bahuyen sasur sey jyada baat nahin karti thi i started up eating on one table things changed now but THANK GOD MY HUBBY REALLY REALLY SUPPORTED ME HE DONT BEAT ME DONT EVEN TALK TO ME WITH RAISED VOICE like ur brother beats ur bhabhi and as per ur mentality i think u suppot him.

common now give answers.
bye Roopali replied. Why bother with thi sperson called \" jay\" . This person is confused whether he is male or female!
Why does this person post messages with a happy face when he is talking about a SIL who is bad? What is there to be happy about having a bad SIL?
Sounds like a really pathetic character! Ritika replied. Hi Jay,

You know what girl...you need to get a life...the amount of venom you are spewing forth abt your SIL, WITHOUT STILL giving a SINGLE instance of what exactly she did to earn it, is only going out to prove what a hard time your SIL must be having dealing with you in person...

Your brother is his mother' s son, but he is ALSO your sil' s husband...like it or not...his first priority should now be towards his wife and future kids (go and check out any counselling website that gives marital advice for a hapy married life...). When he married your SIL, he took some vows..to cherish and protect her..to be with her in times of need...

Just like your parents - would you have liked it if your dad gave no importance to your mom and always listened to his mother and siblings?

Jay - I dont know how old you are...the way you write, it seems as if you are 15 -16 yrs...

You are giving some pretty strong advice (telling your SIL to change herself just because she is a woman!) to somebody who is older to you! Why don' t you start this process with yourself..change your own behavior for starters...

You expect your SIL to change her behavior but not your own! Your last line in yr post is indicative of your brash personality... \" If I want to say something, I will\" ...If possible, pls apply the golden rule towards your bhabhi from now on...treat her as you would expect to be treated...or better yet, treat her as an individual and a person in her own right...on par with your brother...if you would not like your brother to be treated in your SIL' s house, the way you all are treating her right now, then STOP it.

I think your whole family will be a lot happier if you spied less on your SIL...rather than trying to break up your brother' s marriage, give them some space..STOP interfering...

If your SIL wants your brother nad her to live separately from your parents, what' s the big deal? People dont forget their parents just because they are living separately...in fact sometimes its better when people dont get along...

Take care...and don' t hate someone so much just because they dont feel comfortable in your joint family...

vimpi replied. Jay,

Whether you are male or female you certainly used a male name \" Jay\" . Anyways if what you are trying to say is \" You cannot change the world, change yourself\" , yes this is what my basic philosophy has always been and that is exactly what I was trying to tell you too!
I have never objected to you saying anything if you go back and look at my replies to you I always invited you to open up and come forward to give us a clearer picture of what you were saying. Infact it was you who chose to attack me, inspite of it I was willing to look at your point of view.
We on the virtual boards get one sided views on things. and if your sil is this female called seema who talks of her husband slapping her and that causing a threatened miscarriage then tell me is slapping and hitting a woman going to make her change and make her accept you or her brother?
The thread was about domestic abuse and you popped in suddenly just telling us that your sil called your mom a monster in law and that she was a freak!
There are women who expect to have their husbands all to themselves and break them away from their birth family. My own MIL was one such person. But if my FIL had hit her and abused her do you think they could have had this wonderful family of well behaved good kids (my husband is her eldest son)?
FIL chose to follow her quietly all his life and even his own family felt it was better to leave him alone even if he was eldest and had the entire family responsibilty on him.
Someone has to be mature. Hitting someone to force your views on them is not going to resolve anything.
Just try a little kindness and goodness you see things will turn around.
Just like you have a right to say things your sil too has a right to say things especially in the USA you cannot violate someones personal rights! It is a serious crime! Why are you taking the wrong path of committing crime after crime?
Please try the good path of patience, kindness and respect for others once you will see these will have much better effects!
After I came as a DIL to my husbands family I have made my MIL realize so much how selfish she was in keeping FIL away from his family! For this my FIL feels grateful to me and infact both FIL and MIL have started to reach out to his family after all these long years!
So please just try what I am telling you and do not force something on your SIL even if she is a selfish type!
That is all I am saying!