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I' m so confused i hope you can help me out,I' m 19 years old seeing a guy of 21 Jamil,but i cannot forget my childhood sweetheart.Jamil and i are good together,he loves me and is good to me.Now there is this childhood sweetheart of mine Fahim who is currently studying in the US.He and i were close and i knew he liked me all along but he never told me because he was afraid I' d reject him,as i had many admirers.I live in the UK Jamil and I grew up in the same city.When he left we lost contact,and i moved cities to attend university.That was 3 years ago,I forgot about him and I met Jamil the guy I' m with now,then recently Fahim got my contacts and we' ve been chatting ever since,talking of old times and I' m beginning to have feelings for him again.I haven' t told him I' ve got a boyfriend because he told me he still loves me and i told him i feel the same.I know I' m doing wrong to both but i care about them both.Fahim wants me to go visit him in the US and will send me a ticket.Fahim is educated while Jamil is not,he' s got a job but he hasn' t gone further in his education.My mother liked Fahim and when i asked her what to do,she said it' s up to me to decide who to marry.They both want to marry me and have never demanded sex from me,so they both have good intentions.I don' t want to pick a husband because of his diploma' s and degrees,i want to pick someone i' m compatible with and they are both compatible.So should i agree to go to the US and see what happens,or should i tell Fahim the truth? thank you for listening..will be awaiting your replies. notneeded replied. don' t go to US for the sake of finding out the truth..unless you want to go on a vacation or something..
The names are confusing!.Most of the guys get angry easily if he comes to know that there was another person that you were seeing the same time & was kind of chosing between the both..So be realistic & chose your mate sooner (the better)...Who would be compatible for you..only you can analyse that...a person who appears very sweet & loving is not going to be the same forever..Think & find out whom you think would love to forgive and adjust in later on life..Go with the most broad minded of both..That would help..or since your mother actually likes one of the two..jsut chose that person..you decide..but decide faster & with your heart..Dont make a mess by making it appear as if you wer playing a double game with both..guys (why? even girls!) never like it.
Goodluck